Wise thoughts

sarahrah - I punch a pillow or kickbox the air or whatever physical and then usually cry. Then I’m a better parent. But I definitely had a lot of anger to love when I started my isha program and so yeah I feel you!

Wiseonthree​(dom male) - oh? isha program? What is that? also I totally feel you there. I'm not a physical agression type of person, i just get really mad and angry when i talk to people. But It is a struggle of mine. I've grown a lot over the years.

sarahrah - Oh I don’t mean that I am either- I just mean that the punching or whatever moves the anger. If you Google isha judd that’s the system I use and it’s been amazing for me to learn how to express in a healthy way anger and sadness too. And to learn anger is ok, just has to be moved

Wiseonthree​(dom male) - i'll check it out, def, thanks!

Wiseonthree​(dom male) - had some....lol, frustrating things happen yesteerday and today, don't know hwy, but it did.

MsDove​(sub female){Eternal Pi} - On your knees in front if the couch with a whiffle ball bat on a pillow. Big fill body swings. Very satisfying. It also uses your major muscle groups just to release a little pent up energy. I have never been one to get physical when I am angry in person with someone. But I found its a great way to release some rage in a safe, non toxic way.

sarahrah - To MOVE I mean (like let the stress out

Brooklyn Not Looking - I stop making it personal. Oftentimes the anger I can control best is the one that is misplaced. Once I stopped making things personal and evaluate if I am in true danger and/or am I gaining something from this, I was able to control most of my reactions and temper flare-ups.

MsDove​(sub female){Eternal Pi} - This is a technique to stop a situation from escalating when someone comes back at you with anger. When that energy comes at you... don't push back or resist it... let it just pass you by. If you push back, the situation escalates. If you let it pass by, there is nothing for the other person to push back against... the energy begins to diminish. Essentially, don't feed the fire. This is not to suggest that you won't ever have a discussion about whatever the issue is. But moments of anger are not when a productive conversation will occur.

Anger is a natural response we have when we feel a loss of control. If the situation were going "our way", we wouldn't get angry. When we get angry our emotions expand in direct proportion to the amount of control we perceive we have lost. Also our capacity for responding in any productive way diminishes significantly asi we struggle to right the situation. This is why they say; walk away.

Kudos to you in modeling a different behavior for your son. If our parents had done that, we'd be in better shape. It's not an easy thing to do in real time. So, in those times you screw up (and you will); admit that to your son. Talk through with your process for changing your responses. He might even have suggestions. Wow, a mentor dD. How cool are you?!!! ❤