Questions
Us newbies are encouraged to a ask questions and people are great about answering them. And if those answers led me to ask more questions, they answered those too.
So, I ran around asking Doms what quality they found most desirable in a sub. What skill they felt was most important to master. How often did they get together with their sub online? In person?
And while I still think these interesting questions. I should have also been asking things like.... What is aftercare and what kind do you provide? Do you believe aftercare is necessary when in an online only dynamic? Subspace, how do you check and see where your sub is? When do you think it's important to watch for subdrop. What is subdrop? How do you help prevent it? If I'd asked those questions, I feel certain they would have been answered also.
Those are two groups of very different questions. The big difference is I couldn't have asked the second group of questions without first hearing some of those terms, like Subdrop.
What I'm trying to get to is that us Newbies basically don't know shit. So encouraging us to ask questions is wonderful, but if we don't know what to ask, the answers we get aren't going to teach us much.
So if I, or a sub comes to you and asks what is the best color panties for a sub to wear on Fridays? Please answer that question, but then maybe suggest a question we can ask that could teach us something important or relevant. Because it's not always enough to just ask questions, sometimes we need to know what questions to ask.
( btw, that was a trick question, everyone knows about Panty free Fridays)
