My love hate relationship with corsets

Max Heathen​(other male) - I'm assuming that you asked and they either didn't answer or lied out right? Sometimes people forget we are on a kink site and some kinks are not morally based.

Horror Business​(dom male) - You've been lucky in the women you've dealt with?

I've had more than a handful lie about being single and my ex absolutely lied to others about not being married.

It sucks but it's definitely not an issue confined to one gender.

TigerBDSM​(dom male)​{looking} - Sadly liars lie well.

TwinkleEyes​{n/a} - I'm sorry you had to go through that. I recently had a kinky visitor who was lying to me about most things. Including his partners all the way to his so called muscular body. I found it to be a blessing to find out and put him in the friend zone right away permanently. Later receding that as well. Several years ago I decided that when dealing with individuals online I assume they are deceitful, until proven otherwise. I also don't take people seriously until they are sitting in front of me in the flesh. That's when their truths come out.

Max has a good point. Unfortunately kink isn't morally based. Part of a big draw to kink is the taboo "wrongness" of it all. Knowing this may help you keep your guard up, while going through the get to know you phase. Though, there should be transparent honesty to build a foundation of trust. Making a safety plan for your mental and emotional help when dealing with these individuals when they come around might help. Hugs and positive vibes.

TwinkleEyes​{n/a} - Comment deleted by poster.

Softnote​(masochist female) - Set some valid boundaries be selective with your heart. Set some ground rules if your only looking for one then only one , If willing to be poly then things needs to be talked about still if not for you then still a no , You wanna know what you getting on your end. They should taken you out in public and laying cards down being open. If they say are single not attached they need to show the blue prints like caming the whole house not vanish someone who is single would have the burden would show effect blue prints not have you worried or asking question's. But if your not in to poly should never be forced. But if you do go in to poly the guy needs to take his other partner with him to meet you slowly get to know you if you do get with them he needs to make time for you also and lead and care for you just as single one was if they can't take care of second then its time to go. But they need to court you before they can get more with you get invested in to you to keep the love and rest come later. They can't show effect blue prints lose them never settle for anything less raise your boundaries you have right to know what your getting it takes two not just one gotta be the same or its a no. Ask yourself does this support the life I want ? if does not you need to walk. Use your gut feeling go by energy if you have to question everything you should have to them make you feel safe and secure with no headache. Gotta put your foot down you have right. Kick to the curve.