This post has been a few days coming... I guess it's best to start with the main thing: The wife found out I've been 'sexting' with a few people I met on this site. And as I've previously stated, I can't really get sexually involved with someone without emotions attached, so even if nothing physical happened, I did 100% cheat... She's been at her parents' house for the past few days now, with our son. And I've hardly heard from her, to boot.
I've tried to explain to her that I felt trapped, and that her not responding seriously - if at all - to my attempts to start conversations about bringing BDSM back into the marrage pushed me in this direction. Not to mention how everything in the house falls on my sholders: laundry, dishes, picking up our son's toys, cleaing up trash, mowing the lawn, etc. All somehow supposed to get done while 90% of the time I'm also solo-watching our son, after having sweated myself to death at work all day. To say nothing of us never really spending time together even outside the bedroom. Even when she drags herself out to the couch for dinner we don't really talk, we can only agree on a single show to watch which gets old after a while, and it's never long before she slinks back to the bedroom to lay down or takes a bath.
And I understand she had medical issues, and some mental things that would get in the way of being able to do much on-topic activities. Depression, a bad back, breathing problems... but she could at least talk to me about it, try to meet me halfway somewhere, something.
Anyway... I've spent a few days now getting a lot of this stuff off my chest. I guess I'm posting this just to get some extra opinions. Honestly, my biggest concern is with my son. I don't want to loose him. As far as my wife... if she's willing to forgive me and take me back, it'll still take a lot of work from both of us to even begin to fix things. The thing is... I am willing to try to fix it but at this point, now that everything has come out like this... I'm not sure if that's what I want.
