Master and the Sub

Master or Dominant

5 years ago. September 14, 2019 at 12:20 PM

Why I'm a master and not a dominant. I think of myself as a master, the word dominant screams someone who is arrogant and always has to be in control. If you look at history there have been plenty of masters or lords as they were referred to. A master had subs under his control, butler's, maids, cooks, gardeners as did lords. A master was a kind person who treated his staff or subordinates with care and compassion but if one crossed the line or was disobedient than a master would punish them. The word dominant strikes me as a person that craves control all of the time, they live to be respected. Respect and trust are earned not demand of, if anyone every says you will respect me please tell them to go fuck themselves. A master is kind, loving and caring for his subordinates because they are doing their jobs to please their master, which master is most grateful. Dominant to me means power and without a submissive you have no power, with a dominant they command respect and loyalty but why should you give them this power? Have they truly earned it? Of all my years of working jobs I have no respect for a boss or supervisor that commands me to respect them. A good leader earns the trust and respect of his fellow members not commands it. I will follow any man or woman that earns my trust and respect but I will cut you down if you command me to respect you. My sub doesn't cook, clean, wait on me hand and foot, she is my equal, all that said she knows her place in our relationship I have earned her respect and trust so she is willing to do as I ask of her not as I command her to. Love for another human is more powerful than any order given on a battle field this is why I am a Master not a dominant.

allnewtoall(sub female){Yes when I} - I love how you described the difference. I want a Master , thought I wanted Dom. I'm very new but have been approached alot by a few Doms..exactly as you described. So tyvm

5 years ago

Hazel Eyes(sub female){Lion} - I went though the same thing, approached by insta-dom's, always demanding not ever understanding. I am lucky that Lion and I have found each other. The vetting process took close to 800 hours, we spent many nights and days talking about everything. I spoke to a few prior before, and all they wanted was a sub that did what they wanted. My best suggestion is, look for local clubs in your area, go to dungeon parties, seek out munches, and if you find someone online spend as much time on the phone as possible. Listen to what they are saying, understand their tone of voice, open up a little about your past. Mostly importantly find out why they consider their self a Dom or Master. Also, ask yourself the same question, why are you a sub? Don't hesitate to ask questions, its the key way to understand the other person. Best of wishes to your new journey in life.

5 years ago

Fyglia Wicked(dom female) - Very misinformed.
For starters a dominate doesn't mean domineering . And everything you said shout Dominates can be said about masters .

5 years ago

Brattylittleprincess(sub female){Scooby Alp} - First off, I love reading your blogs, I actually follow them. However I think ones perspective is the difference here. I know that I would rather choke on vomit than to refer to anyone as master. That’s actually cut out a lot of potential partners (before I found daddy) and it’s also a hard limit. Because your perspective of a dominant is actually my perspective of a Master. Dominant to me means leading whether in the Bdsm lifestyle or the vanilla. I’m dominant in my career. While I submit to my Dom, I am not his subordinate. A real Dominate wouldn’t make you feel that way. Actually in my personal perspective that to me screams Master/Slave. And I worry about newbie submissives who aren’t sure exactly where they stand reading this and instead of seeing it as one lone perspective, they see it as an actual definition. I’ve dealt with douchy Doms and masters 🤷🏼‍♀️

5 years ago

Lion(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - You missed my point plus my perspective of dominant. First ask yourself and many subs on this site and other sites how many have been told on a first contact to submit to a dominant or master. I am talking about the word in itself is why I dislike it. I have known to many quote assholes who are domineering and wear it as masculine or a title of pride. I am not ranking all doms as being domineering but some make the word ugly. Like my last which was a slave to some it's an ugly word over submissive. Please don't over read what I wrote it's just a word that has been associated with people in my life that have let's just say caused me scars. This is why I prefer not to have that title. Sorry if you feel differently this is why we all have opinions on different things.

5 years ago

Brattylittleprincess(sub female){Scooby Alp} - I don’t need your “sorry” lol. And I did not over read. However after reading your reply I can 100% agree with you that you are indeed... a master. Under a very different perspective from your own. ✌🏻

5 years ago

Lion(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - I have just seen to many in life take power they don't deserve. There are many great doms on here but it's the I'm a dom you will respect me and do as I say one's that ruin it for those seeking a wonderful experience. When I first joined had many subs that went straight for the kill as you could say. Had one that wanted to move in and I didn't even get her name. It makes it hard to find that special person who wants what you want when you have to weed out the bs. Best wishes to you and your Daddy. 😊

5 years ago

Brattylittleprincess(sub female){Scooby Alp} - And to you and your new endeavor as well! I’m excited for you both ❤️

5 years ago

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Master and the Sub

Master or Dominant

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