Self
We often hear people talk about Self care. Self love. Self worth. We all know wonderful people in our lives and on our journey that try to help us understand this more, that try to shine light on ways to be more gentle and nurturing to our self and others. These people touch you and create what I like to call tiny sparks, that light up almost like happy little fireflies and begin flittering around inside of us, a seed that has been watered and is growing baby roots, reaching toward the light and trying to grow beautiful and strong. They encourage us to embrace all our thoughts, feelings and emotions and without hesitation or impatience, with no reason other than trusting their own instincts and inner selves they show us so many different ways we can begin our on journey towards fully embracing, engaging and attaining a higher, richer and more vibrant part of ourselves as we strive to become the person we wish we could be.
Yet it never ceases to amaze me how the brightest, strongest, wisest and most beautiful of these souls seem to be the ones who have fought hand tooth, emotional nail and claw their way out of the darkest places, how much suffering and inner turmoil these people I have personally come across have all been through. Don't get me wrong I'm not in any way saying that other people don't go through things, I'm a firm believer that everyone has their own personal demons that they fight with through their lives, but without fail I have time and again seen that the ones who have had the hardest times, are most often the ones that hit back the hardest, and shine the brightest, because they use that darkness to let their inner light explode like a beacon and light their journey forward, while in many ways guiding those around them to safety, letting them know they are not alone.
I have noticed a sad thing these past few days, some of my dearest and most wonderful spirit family feel uncomfortable at being told they are beautiful. They have an inherent disbelief in their own beauty, wonder and amazing selves and yet these very same people more often than not are the very ones who help and guide others in this exact same way.
One could argue that a sense of modesty has in many ways in instilled in a persons nature since birth. It is thought to be prideful or arrogant to think highly of oneself or have a strong opinion of self worth. Yet there is such a thin line between arrogance and confidence, between being assertive and overbearing...too often these things are drilled into us in negative and harmful ways that are often not even seen or understood.
So these next few weeks (or months or however long it takes!) for me will be focusing on the following topics:
Self Abuse may refer to:
Self-harm, the intentional, direct injuring of one's own body without suicidal intentions
Self-destructive behaviour, patterns of behaviour to inflict metaphorical or literal harm on oneself
Self-inflicted wound, harming oneself without psychological problems but to take advantage of being injured
A euphemism for masturbation
Self Denial may refer to:
(related but different from self-abnegation[1] or self-sacrifice) is an act of letting go of the self as with altruistic abstinence – the willingness to forgo personal pleasures or undergo personal trials in the pursuit of the increased good of another.[2] Various religions and cultures take differing views of self-denial, some considering it a positive trait and others considering it a negative one. According to some Protestants, self-denial is considered a superhuman virtue only obtainable through Jesus.[3] Some critics of self-denial suggest that self-denial can lead to self-hatred
Self Discrimination:
The practice or habit of discriminating against oneself; being too hard upon oneself.
Self Debasement:
The act or process of lowering oneself in status, esteem, quality, or character : the act or process of debasing oneself humility bordering on self-debasement.
I will be writing blogs on each of these topics and analyzing each one separately, noting ways I have seen them play a part in my own life or in situations or circumstances involving others. I feel this is a much needed step for me at this time to become more intrinsically conscious of ways they may negatively be holding me back or impacting my growth. I invite others to do the same and I am hoping this might help create an awareness of something some might overlook without even realizing it.
And now back to the amazing (uncomfortable and disbelieving) wonderful little lights in my life, I ask one simple question:
Does a flower question it's beauty? Is a sunset beautiful because of anything it says or does? Does the moon waxing and waning impact how wonderful and amazing it is in any way shape or form? I personally believe that a thing of beauty simply IS because it exists, and I remind myself daily to be grateful and thankful for all the gorgeous, wondrous and brilliant lights I see flickering and blazing all around me.
You in your wonderful self as YOU...you are naturally, authentically and wholly beautiful because it is YOU. There is not another you in this entire UNIVERSE! Sit and think of that for a moment, never before and never again will there EVER be another YOU. For all the good and bad in life, everything that has come and will still be. You are completely, utterly, indisputably YOU <3
Sending positive love, energy and wishes to all and hoping it's a blessed day!
