My wife and i, before our scenes would watch some adult videos to get into the mind sets.
At any rate our favorite site has been closed (yespornplease)
Can/would you reccommend a site for us and or a hardcore bdsm vid or channel?
(Much of this is c/p from another site but it's perfectly apt.)
For 3 years off and on my wife and I have been learning about d/s relationships. Were both heavily intrigued by the concept, the kink is a huge turn on for us and we always said when our youngest moved away we would explore this more freely.
Up until this point our scenes would only happen on the weekends assuming we could get the small house to ourselves. Despite the numerous sites we visit, books we purchase, videos we watch there is still so little we understand. Despite a few really intense sessions reproducing those results has been a struggle.
Ive sought some manner of tutelage or experiences on numerous sites before finding the cage.
Although if one is lucky enough to live in a larger city, one can find workshops presented by dominant men or women describing their own experiences with D/s, there are no accredited schools for dominant lovers. Most doms therefore educate themselves, hopefully with some mentoring by other wise doms. But for most of us, we are trained by trial and error within our relationships, causing our subs and ourselves suffering when we err.
Having a mentor is the closest that most doms and subs get to actual training. The most productive mentoring relationships are dom-to-dom and sub-to-sub, although the other combinations can also work. Mentoring is largely conversational; it happens over coffee, on the phone, via the Internet. While mentoring may occur within a romance, a relationship formed for the purpose of mentoring should not become sexual, as that creates a conflict of interest for the mentor. A mentor's goal must be the growth and success of his protégé.
I'm reaching out for any who may offer us a guiding light in this journey.
It's true women are magical mystical fantastical beings.
But Hatter, you say. Women are just human like the rest of us what drugs have you and caterpillar been doing? Follow up question do you have any for me?
Well my unenlightened friend I am not on anything but I can offer proof to back up my claims.
1.) They get wet without water.
2.) Once a month they bleed without injury.
3.) Their greatest feat? They make boneless things hard.
Subs and doms what piece of equipment do you love to use/be used?
I love the aesthetic of a ball gag, so simple so sexy and oh so effective. I can't take away from a good flogger. What about you?
I want to take a moment to thank 2 individuals on here.
I recently posted a blog asking if anyone felt comfortable sharing some of their stories and experiences with me for a fictional book I'm writing.
Since I don't know if they feel comfortable with me naming them here I will just leave at.
You know who you are.
Because of these 2 individuals and their stories I have both a basis for my main Character as well as one of the main supporting characters.
Thank you both, truly, deeply and sincerely. You have been so much help.
Anyone else here resorted to making your own equipment? Be it frames, hooks from ceilings, etc?
What has been your DIY project?
Bdsm means many different things to many different people. Though I personally lack the experiences of other more seasoned Doms it doesn't take away my love for the lifestyle.
Though my wife and I are still new, we do alot of reading and try a great many things. No matter what we read or who we speak to one thing remains constant.... trust.
Bdsm's core value the trust that exists between dom and sub, slave and master.
So when you offer to help another less experienced dom and his sub for free and then lie about who you are with horrible stock photos with the watermark still present you do a disservice to yourself and doms everywhere.
If watching couples is your kink great no shame and no judgment. If you don't look like a movie star again this isn't Hollywood it's real life few if any of us are shaped by the gods. But don't lie about it, don't insult me or doms everywhere by pretending you
A. Know what your doing.
B. Claim to have helped others.
C. That you have wisdom your willing to impart.
You break trust your not a dom, if you ever where. You're a scammer and a disgrace.
I won't out you but if any readers want to know whom I'm referring msg me.
Again if you're reading this, be honest with people don't lie.
To everyone,
I'm an amateur writer, at the moment I have my first book written and waiting on the artist to finish the cover before publishing.
I've always wanted to do a book on bdsm a fictional take that will be what 50 shades should have been.
What I'm requesting is your stories, your experiences good or bad I'll take all the reference material you'll offer.
If anyone's willing to share please message me and if you can't comment and I'll get premium set.
As much as I love it I don't have a vast amount of experiences of my own or different view points to draw from.
This group has been kind, easy going, friendly and accepting. Ideally I would like both sub and dom experiences.
Thank you for reading and for being you.