(Much of this is c/p from another site but it's perfectly apt.)
For 3 years off and on my wife and I have been learning about d/s relationships. Were both heavily intrigued by the concept, the kink is a huge turn on for us and we always said when our youngest moved away we would explore this more freely.
Up until this point our scenes would only happen on the weekends assuming we could get the small house to ourselves. Despite the numerous sites we visit, books we purchase, videos we watch there is still so little we understand. Despite a few really intense sessions reproducing those results has been a struggle.
Ive sought some manner of tutelage or experiences on numerous sites before finding the cage.
Although if one is lucky enough to live in a larger city, one can find workshops presented by dominant men or women describing their own experiences with D/s, there are no accredited schools for dominant lovers. Most doms therefore educate themselves, hopefully with some mentoring by other wise doms. But for most of us, we are trained by trial and error within our relationships, causing our subs and ourselves suffering when we err.
Having a mentor is the closest that most doms and subs get to actual training. The most productive mentoring relationships are dom-to-dom and sub-to-sub, although the other combinations can also work. Mentoring is largely conversational; it happens over coffee, on the phone, via the Internet. While mentoring may occur within a romance, a relationship formed for the purpose of mentoring should not become sexual, as that creates a conflict of interest for the mentor. A mentor's goal must be the growth and success of his protégé.
I'm reaching out for any who may offer us a guiding light in this journey.
