According to Psychology Today
“Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and control, which derives its name from a 1938 play, Gas Light, and a film adaptation starring Ingrid Bergman. The victims of gaslighting are bombarded with false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, even about themselves. Victims end up doubting their memory, their perception, and even their sanity. Over time, the gaslighter’s manipulations grow more complex and potent, making it increasingly difficult for the victim to see the truth.”
My moments of insanity
Gaslight, I have heard this term countless times, spoke to people who have been a victim many times , and watched the movie many times. None of these things prepared me for the nightmare that was to come. I spent a few months in Hell this past year. I couldn’t count how many hours I spent, doubting what I saw, what I heard, or what I read. I knew the writing was on the wall, I knew my accusations were true. However, there was one thing missing, concrete proof of my allegations. I searched for proof of my sanity, looked for any clue to dispel the lies I was told. I searched for closure anywhere, and everywhere. As time went on,I was painted to be the monster. People were pitted against each other in an attempt to keep us apart. So no one was able to corroborate the many lies that were told. After months of torment, I found proof, in black and white. When presented, I got the usual “ you’re crazy,” you must be doing these things,” what’s wrong with you? “ This time there was no more room for anymore the lies. This time, I was finally able to run like Hell, and bolt the door behind me. As I walked away, I must have kicked myself in the ass a thousand times, for not going with my gut. To allow someone to play on my sympathy. I should have known better, should have stayed away.
Please do not ask for details, I have deliberately omitted them.The purpose of this post, is not to defame anyone . That would make me no better than my gaslighter.
Instead, it is an attempt to reach out to those who may be going through a similar situation, with the hope that someone can learn from my mistake. If you find yourself in this position, go with your gut, don’t prolong the torment, don’t blame yourself. Instead, save yourself and walk away.
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