Truth be told

Not meant to be.

3 years ago. October 24, 2020 at 11:31 AM

I have been pondering on many things here, one being that some things are not meant to be. In this online world there are too many unknowns and uncertainties. The stakes are higher than in the vanilla world and the losses much greater that I question more and more the validity and the nature of this lifestyle.

I am still trying to understand how many can live with themselves behind their lies and deceit when they are involved in a so called exclusive dynamic, but they are intentionally engaging with others and not telling them of being in a dynamic. I’m not referring to having conversations or being friendly, I mean deliberately pursuing others.

Where is the openness, honesty, transparency, integrity, courtesy and respect? Is this too much to ask or expect in a world where you are to hand over your life and well-being? Where I am supposed to entrust myself to you. How would I, if none of the above are there?

This may be a game for some, a pass-time, something to do for fun or occasionally and do not want to seriously commit or interested in long-term. If that is the case, for fuck sake, say it. In my eyes, a Dom has character and the balls to be a Man enough to say what he wants and is interested in or doesn’t even want, is not afraid to express it and not dance around the mulberry bush. He is secure and confident in himself to not be arrogate, condensing, or confrontational able to say when something is not going any further, respectfully, and want to pursue other options and NOT do it while still in a so-called committed dynamic. Because how in the hell can I put my trust in someone like that - a liar and cheat? This is MY life, it is NOT a game for me.

My apologies for the tirade. Reading what has been occurs for here lately with too many, on both sides of the coin, makes me question why am I here? Am I better off in the vanilla world and hope that whom ever I meet may have the same the desires. Because it seems like in both worlds, it is like trying to find a needle in the haystack. Don’t get me wrong, I have talked to some very wonderful Doms here, we just don’t connect or we are on different paths in our journey.

Maybe it is not meant to be, for now.

Sir Don(dom male){Not lookin} - Questions come to my mind. One is what do you truly want? Do you want the safty of the vanilla man or do you want the kinky man ? Or do you want a combination of the two? If you go at it half hearted then you only get half assed. Just my opinion

3 years ago

Masters Pet - I want BOTH and make that very clear in profile. I know what I want and won’t settle. Nothing is half-hearted for me and I am not willing to settle. Thank you for your comment.

3 years ago

Devil's damsel(sub female){HandsomeDe} - I felt much the same as you a couple years back. I was tired of being played with in the kink world and considered leaving the lifestyle all together. After some introspection I realized that a vanilla life would never fulfill me again now that I knew about this world. I decided that I would stay and wait. I knew something incredible could happen if I waited. I kept talking to people, kept getting hurt, kept waiting for the right one to make himself known. We did find each other eventually.

You seem to know what you want, there are going to be plenty of duds out there, same as in the vanilla world. It’s a game of hit or miss sometimes. But don’t close yourself off. Stay where you know you will be most fulfilled when that person and you finally do find each other. When it comes it’ll be worth the wait.

If you feel like talking my door is always open.

3 years ago

Masters Pet - TY! I truly appreciate your words and you give me hope to hold on. I think this is why I have stayed on the course I am knowing that in the vanilla world, there is no fulfillment to what I have already experienced and know what I want and need. Is there such a thing as an old-maid submissive? Lmao 🤣

3 years ago

Sweet Ginger(sub female){⚓ } - I agree with DD, there are fakes, game players, etc in the "vanilla world " too. I think the best way to approach it, is listen to what people say, start as friends, not necessarily expecting that he's your one but more importantly someone you can learn from. Everyone teaches us lessons, then is this someone I want to invest my time in..go with your gut feelings, is this person consistent? Do they seem genuinely interested in me? If not, then see ya, move on! I hope that helps, somewhat. Feel free to reach out to me if you wish. 🌷

3 years ago

Masters Pet - TY very much.

3 years ago

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