This is another post discussing the concept of how W/we live a long distance M/s lifestyle. I do not consider myself a "part time" slave. I do not do scene play for the sake of play. This post reflects only my own perspective. If it does not match Y/your own ideas that is fantastic! To each their own.
This post will also move outside of the lines I usually operate within to address topics that I traditionally do not discuss, however, the purpose of these writings is to answer the question W/we most frequently get... and that can't really be adequately addressed without addressing these topics. Soooo...
TRAINING.
That word can be so incredibly broad, but for me it matters. It's a mentality thing. Let's think of that guy who has finally "arrived" he has all of the resources in the world and he is ready to go out and get his dream car... man he loves that thing. He loves it so much that he barely ever takes it out of the garage. That's cool for him. You do you.
Then there is that guy who hankered after this one specific model. He finally got his hands on it, but it is a little worse for the wear. It is not a brand spankin' new model... it's a classic. So he spends his time and resources lovingly restoring it, bit by bit. He spends weekends sourcing the parts and then installing them. He puts his blood sweat and tears into restoring that car, and when it is done he can not wait to take it for a drive.
Both are very proud of the cars they drive. Both are grinning from ear to ear... but for ME... well... if the first car were to be in a disaster and got wrecked... he could just as easily replace it. It's only money right but the other one... nothing can ever replace that one. Sure, he could go through the process all over again... but every part was painstakingly found. The process of rebuilding it and creating his perfect ride... THAT can never be repeated.
Training is the difference between those two scenarios for me.
Now, some girls would rather be compared to the first scenario... but I actually prefer the second. It's not about being "broken" and then "fixed" it's about the "being made perfect for Him". That's a mentality that I really enjoy. Actually, it was one of the very FIRST conversations of depth that W/we engaged in. W/we had been attending an online event during covid (a kinky karaoke event that I'd invited Him to) but afterwards a couple of U/us ended up on a discussion about a workshop that they had attended. It was a workshop put on by entitled "Lost Object, Hidden Object, Object of Desire" and man, that mentality definitely hit home for me!
Over the years a constant in O/our relationship has been to put a focus on constant, intentional, incremental improvement with a goal towards becoming His perfect *insert term here*. Training has taken many forms, and much of that can be done in person or over distance!
Now here comes the part that is out of character for me...
So yesterday MstrJ got his tax refund! Whoohoo! This has been a long time in coming. One of the things W/we both do is we live on a budget. This budget ensures that W/we meet all of our needs, but it also ensures that W/we prioritize saving for long term and short term needs and wants. W/we have a budget for saving for plane tickets (both of U/us) He has a budget for saving for His golf membership each year. I have a budget for saving for my needs over the summer for starting the new school year.... and W/we have a budget for saving for lifestyle goals!
Why do we have these budgets? Well, it's one of those life lessons I believe in. Everyone needs to see that their needs and wants are actively and intentionally being met. If He were to put alllll of His money into the house or travel then at some point there would be resentment. Why the budget towards lifestyle things same logic! It's a practical way to intentionally prioritize improving the relationship. Yes, the relationship is not toys or a boob lift... but those things are very real ways to clearly say: "HEY this thing is important! Your needs and wants are IMPORTANT."
That lifestyle budget can go towards workshop fees, or towards items of clothing, or towards play toys, or furniture... well this time I'm really excited... this time it's going towards a training tool!
Yes, I'm excited for training!
Yesterday after His tax refund came in He went to go purchase His golf membership, and then once He came home He sat down and ordered the next training tool W/we had been discussing! I got to sit with Him and participate in the planning and then the celebration afterwards. So what pray tell is this training tool?
Master got me a fancy and fun new Deep Throat training tool which will add loads of fun and is specifically intended for distance learning! When I first saw it I was not convinced that it was a real thing, I've been around the block a fair bit and this sounded like theory or fantasy, not reality... but apparently it is! So it works with any "appendage" you'd like to use, and you calibrate it to read the length of the appendage. Then you program the training that you'd like to complete. You have a few options there: you can train for length of session "repetition mode" if you will. In this mode you set a goal for length of time (you can also add in a requirement that you hold at a certain position for certain lengths of time). You watch the led display in front as you complete the training. If you are on track it will stay green, if you are falling outside the training parameters it will turn red. If you fall outside the training parameters too long it will turn off completely.
There is also a mode to train endurance in this mode the goal is to hold the depth for as long as you can (again within certain parameters).
Finally, there is a freestyle mode, but if you would like to set goals then you set a pace (x distance per y time) again, follow the led which, in this case will move a dot at the rate you should be moving at.
In all three cases there are a few built in "rewards" for the trainee: #1 there is a leaderboard which you can opt into. It will automatically upload your training data to your dashboard, and if enabled will allow you to see your place on the monthly leaderboard!
#2 there are optional physical attachment rewards... there are vibrators of all manner which attach directly to the trainer and when you are "on track" will give you the physical reinforcement. When you are not on track, they will shut off. As an interesting side note, they are actually completely useless without the trainer. They literally *do not function* as separate devices. I had some mixed feelings about that being a very practical person. HOWEVER, from the D side of things, that could be an incredibly useful feature long distance! Yes, they even partner with the Magic Wand... but again... if you buy that attachment it will NOT function without the trainer being active! Damn that's harsh! LOL
#3 the part I like best is that I am able to share my dashboard control with MstrJ who is the one to set the training schedule and parameters. Meaning, when I go to do a training session, I'm not even really sure what the training will be! I just have to follow the little green line or dot and do my best to keep that light green!!!
From His side, He gets a mobile notification ping that training has been initiated, and He gets a notification to check the dashboard when it has been completed. There is no subjectivity to it at all! He can absolutely "see" what success there is (or isn't) and what improvements are made (or still need to be made).
Now, again, I'm a pragmatic woman! One of the things W/we have been working on for a while is a different type of training. I HATE squats with a damn passion. HHHHHAAATTTEEEEEE them, mostly because they hate me. However, when I was looking into this I had to admit that this would technically work on any and all possible areas of entry! I mean... it would! Sooooo I negotiated for 3 separate "appendages" (different colors so as not to get mixed up)... yes yes I know ATM is a thing and all that, and I'm perfectly amenable to it in the moment, but for training, there is really not a point to risking health etc. Had He said there WAS a point to it, then that would be that! (that is where M/s comes into play! I ask and explain my logic. He listens and then makes a call. End of.)
So... W/we have a new training toy coming! I'm absolutely excited to see how it goes! I can't wait to have a way to empirically track progress! I can't wait to have another way to earn my "good girl" and to show up and work on being the very best I can be for Him. I hope that it provides as much of a benefit as He intends. I hope it brings Him pleasure knowing I'm working at it.
I love when He finds new and practical ways to incorporate training into our lives!
When He finds new ways to train me it makes me feel safe... He is putting time and energy into the relationship and into me, His slave.
When He finds new ways to train me it makes me feel valued... He is putting his resources into this relationship and into me, His slave.
When He finds new ways to train me it makes me feel excited... it means there is a new way for me to show enthusiasm and earn His pleasure.
What cool long distance training options do you know of?
~His slaveMikayla~
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