Master Rob

SHRINK TALK, THE DOCTOR IS IN

This is my medical disclaimer, this is only my opinion and does not represent a medical decision. If you have a medical problem, please, see your physician.

SUIDICAL THINKING AND THOUGHTS

4 years ago. February 9, 2020 at 9:45 PM

I write about suicidal thoughts and thinking, cause I want people to know about this, I don’t want this pushed under the rug so to speak. We are living human beings and we have stress and problems and its no shame to have thought about this or even in the extreme to have or make a plan. The shame is not getting the help that one needs. I write this to inform everyone about it, so if this helps one person or better yet saves one person from this terrible thing, then that would be a great day.

Everyone gets sad or depressed, everyone has periods of being down and low, as a society we need to make it ok, to get help, to seek help, to be more supportive, to be more loving and kind.

Here are some facts: Reported suicides in 2017, 47, 173 suicides, 1.4 million people attempted it,

Suicide is underreported and is often listed as accidental

Suicide increases with age, it is the third leading cause of death in male adolescents and college students

The ratio of completes is 3:1 (Male to Female); that of attempted is 3:1(Females to Males), So females attempt it more often but males are more successful

The most common attempt is by drug ingestion, most likely to be fatal is shooting

MOST PEOPE ARE NOT PSYCHOTIC OR INCOMPETENT, MOST ARE SAD AND DEPRESSED

1. Population Risk Factors

Males

Elderly

Isolated Individuals

Whites

American Indians

Policemen

2. Individual Risk Factors

Sense of Helplessness, particularly in someone who has a lot of sadness and depression, loneliness, exhaustion, “unbearable “ psychological pain

Mental Health Problems, like depression, alcoholism, psychoses, panic disorder with depression,

Failing Health

Intoxication, not just with alcohol, but other drugs

Impaired impulse control for any reason

History of previous suicidal attempts, this is most significant, please get some help, you are not alone.....

Family History of Suicide, may be a genetic component

Widowed, divorced, separated, single, unemployed , retired

Chronic Medical Problems

Family stresses or instability, with few external supports

Recent loss or rejection

Parental loss during childhood

Holidays, spring, anniversaries

Please, Please get help, seek help, tell someone, don’t allow yourself to go through this alone, there is a lot of great support systems in place to aid in your stress.

I hope this is helpful.

Rob

Hidden Secret(sub female) - My niece (more like a little sister to me) took her own life in 2017, it shook our entire family to the core. We will never be the same.

After her death, I did a lot of research on depression & suicide & discovered the following:

1. All suicide survivors say they didn't want to die, they just wanted the pain (mental) to stop.

2. Depression physically damages the brain. The areas it affects the most are the areas responsible for decision making & impulse control (a deadly combination).

Depression is a mental cancer. It eats away & damages your mind until you can't think of anything else but ending the pain in whatever means possible.

Suicide is viewed as someone being weak & "taking the easy way out". That is not true at all. We have ALL thought about suicide at some point in our life, but we didn't follow through. Why? Mainly out of fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of the physical pain, fear of death. So those who suicide are NOT weak, they just didn't have the coping mechanisms to deal with the emotional pain they were going through.

When someone takes their own life, their pain has ended. But it now becomes OUR pain. Their sadness, guilt, feelings of doubt & self worth have now been spread to those they left behind.

Suicide fucking hurts!!!!

4 years ago

Sir Richard(dom male) - Well said.

4 years ago

Sir Richard(dom male) - Thank you for posting this blog. As a psychiatric nurse I deal with people on a daily basis that struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts. I work in a hospital, however, so at least the ones I am helping have already asked for help. The real danger is those out there that have not yet asked for help. If you know someone whose shows signs of depression, expresses hopelessness or helplessness, or actually mentions suicide or being better off dead, please take it seriously, even if they say they were just venting or joking. If their behavior has changed there may be a problem. Talk with them and help them get the help they truly need. You or they can call the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255. Don't be afraid to call for help if they can't. Better to be safe then sorry that you didn't help when you had the chance.

4 years ago

Hidden Secret(sub female) - Great response.

What makes things more difficult are a lot of times, there aren't any signs that someone is planning on ending their life. They wear really good masks while in the public eye because they don't want anyone to try & stop them.

Or it may be that the signs are so subtle, we tend to overlook them or blow the signs off as the person is just having a bad day or something.

My family lives with that guilt
every single day. We KNEW she was battling depression, we KNEW she was on antidepressants, and we KNEW she was seeing a counselor.
We thought she was working on her depression & getting better because she always seemed happy. But after her death, we all realized that she did give very subtle hints. She was also having some health problems & we thought she might just be worried about that.
Never in a million years would we have thought she would kill herself.

4 years ago

Sir Richard(dom male) - I'm so sorry for your pain. Know that those closest to the person often cannot spot the changes because it doesn't happen all at once. Most people want help and "feel" like they want to die to make the pain stop, but they don't really "want" to die. Other times, however, the pain is just too much and they are determined to die. It is hard to help those people because they do seem happier. They seem to be getting better. The reality is that they come to a peace about making a decision, and so can falsely appear better. Obviously, I don't know the situation with your niece, but it could be that only when everyone gets together and talks about it that the subtle signs appear. You may never have been given much of a chance to stop her. Please, seek counseling. There are groups for survivors of suicide that can be very beneficial for those battling the guilt and grief associated with suicide. I wish you and your family the best. As much as is possible, try not to blame yourselves. No one really knows what was going on in her head.

4 years ago

Hidden Secret(sub female) - Thank you so much.

4 years ago

Lion(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - Well said, I almost being one of those statistics 3 times know all about the darkness people feel. For most people its hard for them to ask for help, in men especially since most of us have been raised or taught to show no weakness. This attitude has to change we as humans have feelings and emotions and on the dark days need a hand up or help seeing the light. The bullet in my chest reminds me to ask for help when I may still feel depressed about life. My deepest sympathy for those who have lost someone. Like Rob said get help. Big hug to you.

4 years ago

Master Rob - Thanks for all your comments, its very much appreciated .

4 years ago

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