So we all have those times when we have to put our kinky side to the side and step into our “vanilla persona”. And while we may have to do it we don’t think about having to do it with our Sir.
Well lucky for me I get to experience this strange occurrence where I have to be vanilla in situations with my Sir. And it’s hard. There are times He will say something off hand and I want to comment “Yes Sir” or “No Sir” or I’ll get messages from him as my Sir that I can’t respond to vocally that I really want too or can’t react to as I would normally in a kinky situation l. This also goes for the opposite situation as well.
Recently I introduced Sir to some of my kinky friends from one of my groups and I sometimes have a harder time remembering to use my proper manners in that situation and slip up. So here’s some tips that I have for all those out there in similar situations as me.
1. talk to your Sir about your problem. See if there’s anything He can do to help keep you in the right headspace during each situation.
2. Technically you don’t stop being in a sub headspace when you are in vanilla situations and if you are like me and find it weird to call your Sir by their real name come up with a nickname that you can refer to them as. I tend to go toward hun or babe pending the situation and in certain situations I do refer to my Sir by his real name. But I try not to.
3. make it a type of game. I like to tease my Sir and I know he likes it as well so I try to see how many times I can drop the word Sir into casual conversation. Just know that turn around is fair game tho so expect those dirty messages to come your way or if you are in person expect those wandering hands. But hey that’s the fun of it.
4. if all else fails just be real with your Sir and tell them that’s it’s too hard to go back and forth and try to work something out to limit those type situations. Just know that they will happen at some point.
These are my tips and as always if you have any other suggestions drop them below. And remember everyone stay safe, have fun and keep on kinking on!
~PM