So, my Sir and I have our first scheduled in person meet for next weekend. Hotels have been booked and plans have been made and it’s happening come hell or high water. And I’m so excited. But so gosh darn stressed it isn’t even funny.
What if he doesn’t like me in person?
What if I’m not what he’s hoping for?
What if I’m too much?
What if I’m not enough?
What if he changes his mind but I’m still super attached?
What if I change my mind?
See.... stressed. All these worries and questions running thought my head ever since I clicked the confirm button on the hotel.
Well I’m sure I’m not the only one stressed and worried and my Sir has been so very supportive and loving and kind and reassuring that it’s really not even worth the stress of stressing but it’s a natural instinct. So here are some coping mechanisms, from one anxiety ridden sub to another:
-Breathe.
Girl (or guy no judging just love) take a deep breath in.
Hold for a 5 count.
Release slowly.
Repeat.
Everything will be fine. Lean on your Sir/Ma’am. Trust them. They would never put you in a situation where you have to worry. They love you. They know you’re stressed they get it. They still love you. Breathe.
-Talk with them.
Tell them about your fears and worries. They know you better then you know yourself sometimes. And in this case it’s best if you go to them with your stress and worries and have them take those away. Maybe with a video chat. Maybe with a little play time. Maybe with a virtual cuddle session. But tell them. Don’t let the stress build because then you will be a ball of anxiety when you see them for the first time and no one wants that.
-Self care. SELF care. SELF CARE!
Do I need to say it louder for those in the back?? SELF FLIPPING CARE!!!
Take a bath. Read a book. Have a little one on one time with BOB (or whatever you name your vib (with permission of corse 😏)). Go for a walk.
Clear those negative thoughts and doubts away people.
You’re gonna see your flipping SIR!!
You’re gonna be able to touch.
To kiss.
To cuddle.
To talk with face to face.
To play with.
This is a special, magical time. Enjoy it. Cherish it. Take lots and lots of pictures. Make amazing memories. You never get to see each other for the first time again. Make this one special.
Be prepared. Be smart. Be safe. Make sure you tell a trusted person or people. Give them the details of where you’re gonna be. Keep your location on your phone on. But don’t stress.
I hope these helped you guys. And remember my loving kink community, stay safe. HAVE FUN!! And Keep on kinking on!
~~PM💋💋
