Communication between partners every one makes a big deal of this like it is some kind of magic Bullitt to the lifestyle well guess what it not for just the lifestyle it is for any type of relationship. and time must be set aside to talk. sir's story "talk is cheep so do it".
The three main fine's 1) the kind you want to hear most means all my systems are working well and there is nothing wrong. 2) this fine means everything is working but I am have trouble with something and the dreaded fine 3) this one means you have F.U. big time and I will get you when you least expect it regardless of the punishment. Now let us look at this from the dynamic view the first one is the one you want to hear all the time, the second one means it's time to talk the dynamic is suspended because it needs work it is time to ask questions to help them get out what they need to say and this means listening not judging not trying to solve a problem before you understand it completely nothing may have to change or something does but maybe it is not you maybe it's helping her to come to a answer or sometime changing the dynamic to make it better for you both. But the key is to listen and comprehend what they are saying. If you do this and keep doing this until there is a new understanding you will likely avoid the third fine 9 out of ten times as well as improve you dynamic every time because she will feel validated and she has every right to feel that way because she is after all the most important thing in your life. I had missed this in my early relationship and it cost me the love of a very good woman. But by the time I met Jane and had gotten into the habit of listening and comprehending what is said I became a good Dom later as Jane and Dena had time to work on me I really did become a master. So to make it short and sweet learn to listen and comprehend what is said is the most important part of communication. And always make the time to do that. There is an old saying that my father shared with me "never go to sleep angry".
Jill note: we cant think of any thing to add to this other then say sir would always go without sleep if one of us needed to talk.
