Definition of futility
1: the quality or state of being futile : USELESSNESS His speech focused on the futility of violence.
2: a useless act or gesture
Definition of perseverance
: 1. continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition : the action or condition or an instance of persevering : STEADFASTNESS
Which word describes your search for a Dynamic? Which word will you embrace as the sun comes up on a new day in your life?
Everybody always talks about how hard it is to be alone. Guess what? It's not hard, it's the easiest thing in the world to do, and you can justify it in your mind with an endless dialogue of self talk and reassurance, and that's all the effort that is required to maintain it.
Finding somebody, that takes effort. But sadly, alot of us use the million and one excuses to eliminate potential partners instead of trying to find one. They're not cute enough, there's "just something", OMG! They showed interest too fast!. You name it, if you use them, they are your easy to use, ready built in parachutes back to the safe, yet totally unfulfilling, place of being alone. I often times wonder, if we did not have certain things, how would we react to these potential partners?
What if we did not have the benefit of sight? Are you overlooking people that could make you happy beyond your wildest expectations by looking? Are you decorating your house or trying to complete your soul? I am not saying they should not be attractive to you, I am saying that there is more to attraction than finding the guy from 50 shades, or the playmate of the month.
What if we had never been hurt? Are you really not interested in somebody because they showed interest or moved too fast? Or was some deep nerve hit, some old wound deep inside akin to Lancelot of the round table, and you got scared and ran off to be alone instead of communicating openly, and carefully? I mean, after all .. God forbid somebody should like us immediately, that's just unthinkable!
What if we never had birthdays? This one is the most common I think. How many of us are searching for somebody with the qualities of an older/younger person, yet discount and discard the entire age group that has them,or maybe somebody who is YOUR age, because they are in that age group? If you could find, right now, a happy and totally fulfilling dynamic with somebody, but God himself (or herself as you see fit) told you that you would would experience joy beyond measure, be fulfilled as you never thought possible, but he was taking that person from you in exactly 20 years? Would you spend those years searching and hoping, or embrace the gift?
I don't have all the answers to these thoughts, just the thoughts. But I can tell you, be careful what you throw away, it might be your future.....
