IowaDom
dom male

Premium
West Burlington, Iowa, United States
Age
59
Relationship status
Single
About me
I am a professional, single, Caucasian, straight male Dom,  I have 2 amazing children, both raised and out on their own in whom I am extremely proud!   I still have 2 four legged furry children still at home, but no matter how much I encourage them, the little furballs seem to want to stay at home forever, and simply refuse to further their education or abandon their sunbeams :)

So who am I?   Why am I here?

   I lived a very vanilla life until one fateful nights encounter awoke in me something I had always suspected was there, but never embraced. The young lady I was dating at the time, while snuggling at bedtime, me stroking her hair trying to calm her migrane, looked up at me with her head resting on my chest and asked me if I would spank her sometime. Prior to that night, in my world, in my upbringing, BDSM was something only "those people" participated in, and was to be shamed and scorned.

   But that adventure, that one fateful night, got me to exploring this fantasy realm we call BDSM.  I bought books, watched movies, videos, learned all I could learn, and explored this concept from every angle I could imagine or get my hands on. I had to know what this was. And at the end of my toils, I have come to embrace that I am Dominant, and there is NOTHING between 2 people, providing it is Safe, Sane, and Consensual that is wrong on any level. That does not mean I do "it all", it simply means I respect everybody's right to do as they see fit,  "My kink is not your kink, But I respect and will defend both."

   My other side still exists, I go to work five days a week in a suit and tie. I still very much have my professional career, and all my personal relationships outside of BDSM. Want to picture me? Picture a businessman in the public arena, and a man who completely enjoys and protects his personal life and those in it to the absolute end of my ability. I abhor needless drama in all its forms in my day to day life.

   One day you might find me writing a departmental financial performance evaluation, and the next cruising about town on my Harley. Or perhaps you will find me driving along the river, or aimlessly wandering out in the country in my Silverado, just taking in the views and sights, engaging in some Amateur Photography, and being completely at rest while doing so.  Or perhaps I might be at the local R/C Airplane club, flying a model plane, or down at the lake running some R/C Boats.

   A big part of me is  a romantic, or a romantic fool, time has yet to reveal which is the truth.  I believe in love, and I believe in the true BDSM dynamic as being the highest form of relationship and deepest trust 2 human beings can attain on this Earth.  And to that search, I converted one of the bedrooms in my home to a private play area, complete with dedicated bathroom ( you can find it in my blogs, but it is constantly being modified, just not used ...lol)

I will not post a picture to any website due to my professional life. That being said, my private life is another matter all together! If you want to know more about me, you can also read my blog, I try to blog extensively, and share my thoughts and beliefs there freely.

Institutions or individuals using this site or its associated sites for projects - You do NOT have permission from me to use any of my blogs, profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action
BDSM and me
I am a Dom. Period.  A DOM with experience in  Rope play, Bondage, Orgasm Denial, Pet Play, Role Play, Flogging, Spanking (naturally), Breast play, Nipple Play, sensory deprivation, Discipline, Erotic Photography, and others.  Frankly, there are so many facets to BDSM, it would be impossible to list them all, and even more impossible to say yes or no to any of them until I have explored them.

So what is BDSM to me? To be totally honest, my greatest joy in BDSM does not come from the activities (notice I did not say I don't love them though!), My joy, my satisfaction, comes from the soft moan my partner makes, the subtle arching of her back, her slight writhing, the goosebumps on her skin, the changes in her breathing,  the look of sudden frustration followed by exasperation as we deny yet another orgasm on our way to the next, all those things that tell me we are getting her there. It is in hearing the chosen safeword finally uttered from her lips because she cannot endure another orgasm without rest  :)

   It comes from that soft nod, the unwavering loyalty, slowly raising her chin upward to give her that compliment, the absolute trust between us, doing all I can to protect and preserve her, to be able to keep her safe, to help her realize her goals as a person as well as a submissive. From that look of absolute satisfaction on her face when she sees I am pleased with her, and could desire no other.

Yes, I am a Dom, but do not call me Sir upon meeting, that is an earned title, given to me by she who chooses to see me as such.  There are many facets of this lifestyle I have not explored, and I eagerly seek the one to explore them all with....


Current Results 11/4/20
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Dominant
100% Rigger
97% Brat tamer
95% Master/Mistress
80% Daddy/Mommy
78% Owner
66% Sadist
64% Primal (Hunter)
59% Degrader
54% Experimentalist
44% Exhibitionist
39% Ageplayer
39% Voyeur
2% Brat
1% Primal (Prey)
1% Vanilla
0% Rope bunny
0% Slave
0% Degradee
0% Boy/Girl
0% Submissive
0% Masochist
0% Pet
0% Non-monogamist
0% Switch



Results 8/20

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Dominant
100% Rigger
97% Brat tamer
95% Master/Mistress
93% Daddy/Mommy
82% Owner
69% Primal (Hunter)
54% Experimentalist
52% Voyeur
51% Sadist
50% Degrader
46% Ageplayer
37% Exhibitionist
13% Vanilla
3% Non-monogamist
2% Brat
1% Primal (Prey)
0% Rope bunny
0% Slave
0% Degradee
0% Boy/Girl
0% Submissive
0% Masochist
0% Pet
0% Switch
Limits
Not into Scat, illegal, or Blood Play. I will not participate in activities that could cause serious or lasting emotional, physical, or psychological harm.
What's new
Playroom is undergoing revision # God only knows
Update date
Jan 30, 2023
Member since
Sep 20, 2019
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