Call it what you wish to, me, I prefer to call it the relationship roller coaster. Let me tell you why….
There we are, making a decision as to what park we want to go to this time around. There are several choices … we can go to the Vanilla park, the Not-so vanilla park, or the park most of us have chosen to attend, the BDSM park. But why? How did this come to be? Lets look at them 1 by 1. So first, the vanilla park.
Safe, Sturdy, with traditional values, no risk, no judgements, nobody thinking you are “different”, and definitely the easiest to find a partner to ride with… But …. Boring as hell, and totally unfulfilling. You wait in line to find a partner to ride with, and when you do, you better really enjoy the person, because In the world or roller coasters, its basically the bland and boring kiddie ride with no thrills and no chills. So most of “us” just pass it by.
Then we have the not so vanilla ride. It has a couple twists, one small hill, but few if any thrills for “us”. It APPEARS to be a thrilling ride, and the people on the platform are making all kinds of noise too! Now, for some who have never been to this park, they enter it just to get a glimpse of what other parks may offer, As they wait in line, once they get to the platform, the SUPER DOMS,and PERFECTO SUBS (insta Doms and insta Subs) are eagerly waiting to be your partner, to “help you” explore, but as we all know, in the end most likely damage or destroy your will or desire to come back to the ride again, or maybe even make you hate going to parks at all.
Then, if we are lucky or brave enough to enter it, we find the BDSM park. The coaster is.. to say the least, terrifying to the inexperienced rider. With mountainous hills, deep valleys, multiple twists and turns, and it extends as far as the eye can see. So we enter the park, and look about patiently to find our partner to ride with.
But this is just beginning .. unlike the other parks, where you just get in line and jump on the ride, here we have far far fewer potential partners to choose from. And our friends told us we need to be careful who we get on the ride with too, so we take our time in selecting a partner.
Once we find them, we get in the slow moving line, and start the process of getting to know them. Sometimes, while waiting, we discover this is not the person we need to ride with, so we exit the line and go back to the entrance and search again.
If we are persistent enough to find another partner, and lucky enough to make it through the line, we gradually make our way to the platform. Once there, we are given a choice of which track to ride, but we are each asked to choose individually. And If we do not choose the same track, we get sent back to – you guessed it, the entrance to start again.
Hopefully, we get to enter the ride! As the ride starts, we notice a little red button in the car, one for each of us. It is activated at the beginning and end of each turn, twist, hill, valley and spiral. At each new experience, we have the option of hitting that button, knowing fully well if one does and one does not, our car will be separated from the group, and we get returned to the entrance to start over.
We have to be careful about that button! You don’t want to hit it because you have never been on this part of the track, you only want to hit it if the other insists on exploring it, and you insist on never exploring it. With each new section of the ride we experience, comes a new found bond with our riding partner. A new level of trust in the ride, While the Loops TERRIFY us (in a good way), our riding partner is there reassuring us and getting us through. Some sections we both are thrilled with, sometimes we ask our car to avoid a section all together, but that’s the whole point, we are making the journey together, joined, and far more powerful than anything the ride can encounter….
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So when you are looking for your partner, be sure the person you select is one that can make the whole ride a lifetime experience that will never end, and not just a fast thrill. Oh, and make sure they aren’t wearing a cape. The Super Stud Insta Dom or Perfecta Sub you may be measuring every potential partner against, may have you overlooking you own happiness …..
I have posed this question before, and will do so again now. If God told you he/she would gift to you the True BDSM Dynamic, but in 15 years would take one of you from this Earth … would you pass the offer up or embrace it? Find the PERSON you can live this with, not the picture in your mind….. they may be older or younger, taller or shorter, near or far, but I promise you, the ride is worth the effort …..
