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1 year ago. April 19, 2023 at 12:42 PM

How does the way you communicate in your BDSM relationships influence the way you communicate in your mundane relationships?

For me, it's consent. I am hyper aware of all the little ways people in the mundane world have no respect for consent. From "awww come on" from one friend to another who doesn't want to have a beer or to a family member who nags "just stay a little longer" when another family member says they have to leave, people are constantly trying to control you. From spending so much time in BDSM I've come to expect people to respect my "no" so it's always shocking out in the mundane world when people just try to steam roll my "no".

What about you?

sexycurves​(switch female) - it's not really something i've thought about. definitely the consent bit that you mention - totally agree. now you've given me something to ponder on
1 year ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - It may be that when people in the vanilla world push you like that, it runs your dominant side and THATS why it feels like a violation of consent.
1 year ago
MsDove​(sub female){Eternal Pi} - Consent from a different perspective: Until I got to the point in my life where I truly understood that I am always at choice... and not doing what I thought I "should" do and/or not trying to make someone else happy, my consent would have meant nothing. Alot of women have a hard time clearly vocalizing their "no." In other areas of my life, I have agreed to something when my answer was really "no." It took me a long time to find my way to understanding what it was I really want and to speak my truth, even if it was unpopular.
1 year ago
aPeepingMom​(sub female) - My Sir has given me a rule that I am not to apologize every time he corrects me on something. I was always saying “I'm sorry”, but the rule is that is only for when I have done wrong and caused hurt. Most often, “Yes Sir” is enough.

I’ve found myself apologizing less out of habit in all areas of my life now. He’s is truly making me a better person, not just a better submissive.
1 year ago

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