Letters from the Edge of Tolerance

Now then i apologize for the long time between the two, but this one took some thought and reflection and i decided to go on a slight tangent with this one and skip some aspects. I am going to point this one more twoards the inexperienced dominants/submissives.For the experienced individuals feel free to correct anything i get wrong in the comments, i am open to criticism, so far as it is positive.

The D/S dynamic  is very broad, it covers many aspects which can include Master/slave (M/S), Daddy Dom/ LittleGirl (DDLG), and several others.  In these dynamics its obvious that the Dominant is in control, however that control is li.ite by the the trst given to them by the submissive, DO NOT betray that trust it is the very foundation that this dynamic stands on, whithout it, this dynamic wont exist. 

Now for the submissives i always recomend to be careful who you hand control to, get to know them don jump straight into it. There is always the good ones and the bad ones, its just like life they are all around us. So be careful NEVER just jump right into a D/S relationship. If your potential DOMINANT is willing to take the time to get to know you make him even if he isn't, i say if they arent willing to wait, they only want sex. Just move along from them it will save you the heart break.

Dominants i will point this out we hold alot on our shoulders, those of us who are willing to be a switch have alot better knowledge because we can put ourselves in the shoes of our subs and ask ourselves "How would i feel if i had this done to me?" Never be afraid to ask for advice from anyone in the community and encourage your sub to remain active in the community, it is thier helpline and ours as well. We should always be striving to learn more of the world of BDSM. Learn new things, new punishments and rewards to. A reward is not necessarily just sex, you could buy them something new, maybe take them on a nice date, there is plenty you can use as a reward, or even as a punishment.

Now im going to conclude this chapter for now with an encouragement always feel free to ask me or anyone else questions we all are here to help, thats why its called community.  ENJOY! ? 

I believe that there is many things that goes i to a D/S relationship.

I believe the key points lie in several things:

Communication: This is a big one 65% of relationships end up in divorce due to lack of comunication 43% due to the inabilty to properly solve conflicts. The saying communication is key, is definitely the most note worthy, if you cant communicate your feelings, your desires, your wants, your needs, your lusts, it just isnt going to work.

Looks: looks are not really important, being sexually attracted to someone solely based on looks is nothing more than lust, no good relationship has come from just being founded on lust. A good relation ship will never be founded with this as a consideration.

Honesty: Honesty is a hard point, as a Dominant i have learned that hiding anything from my submissive is bad in every light. You should never hide anything, this ties back to the communication is key. If you cant be honest about what you feel, what you desire, or what you need, and what you have done, it isnt going to work. 20-40% of marriages end due to infidelity. Let that sink in, infidelity  covers a large spectrum thats why i mention it here. IF YOU TAKE ANYTHING AWAY FROM THIS SECTION ALWAYS BE HONEST EVEN IF IT HURT

Love: Now this aspect is something that really cant be explained or measured, this is a primal instinct. We all feel it, we all crave it and we all deserve it. Now I probably will beat a dead horse with this one so be ready. SUBS, YOU are intitled to this, i spent my first 4 years in this world with a mistress, and that is something i was told time and time again. You deserve it and should recieve it. Domestic violence  is not ok, sexual and physical abuse is not ok, if you dont love them or you suffer from these, SPEAK UP, AND GET OUT OF THERE. You are one of a kind you deserve the best from your Dom. DOMS, it is our responsibility to know the difference, consent is everything, and our subs deserve our love, matter of fact they need our love and want it, just show it to them treat them right. Love is honestly unmeasurable and not something that can be explained, we could spend years trying to measure it trying to explain it, but we will never be able to. It is instictive and there are many things i believe that fall into showing that you love someone.

Now this is running longer than i like so come back tomarrow for chaper two.

Life throws our way many things, they are never exactly fun, and never exactly what we want, we are here to struggle but that struggle is not meant to be in vain. We can lay there and bleed on the ground, or we can get back up and keep moving. We are 1 in 7 billion, we are unique, and we are loved. 

Its never been a matter of race, culture, relgion, or anything else. We were put here to live and die. We were put here to leave behind something better for those after us. So i ask you what is it that you leave? What is it that you WILL be remembered for? What is your legacy? What is your purpose? Why are you here?. 

These are things none of us want to ask our selves, things we dont want to think about while we are young, or old. The only time we think of it is when we know we are about to die. Why is it then that we spend our whole lives trying to avoid the things that hurt? Why do we avoid the chamce at failure? Why do we let the masses control what we think? 

Is it because we are not individuals? Is it because we can't  think for ourselves? I say bullshit, we are all different, yet we are all one people, it doesnt matter kink, race, the color of your skin, what god/s you worship, what things you have done in your past, what your goals are, what your personality is. We are all..... Different. 

We were born different, it is up to us to accept that noone is exactly like us, noone is completely perfect, unflawed, and divine. We are all corrupt, broken, flawed, and jus plain wierd. But that is what makes us who we are. We were not meant to judge eachother, we were not meant to own another (unless it is willed by the one owned), we are meant to be one people, it is the masses that tear us apart, those who are insufferable and unwilling to accept a difference in opinion, the difference in choices. 

Those are the ones that tear this world apart.

Now ive thought many years on what would have to happen i order for the whole world to achieve a utopian society, yes it is a favorite topic of mine, if you can get me going on it and hold your own we will talk for hours, in order to achieve it there would have to be a governing council, a police force, and everyone would have a job, a house, and something they are able to do, and want to do ( similar to the giver.) 

But ask your self this what is it that we as a people ; the whole world; lack?

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So yesterday on my way intowork i was hit by another car, which completely totaled  my car.i had to sort out a new place to live as well as figure out how to deal with a couple tickets i got and find a new way to het to and from work. Unfortunately it is still a work in progress, i have found a new place to live but still no car, and no way to pay the tickets or cost for the tow.

Good morning The Cage, how is everybody this beautiful day?

Music during a scene? yes or no. IF yes what kind and what is your goto song.