So I just wanted to say....love reading the blogs. They are all very informative and sometimes entertaining. There are some that touch the vanilla in me as well as the dominant in me. Seeing things from a submissive point of view is also enlightening.
Thank you all for such a great read as I continue on this journey of mine.
Nassau
So often as a new dom I feel like my partner pushes me away. Sometimes intentionally and sometimes not so much. Shes going through some stuff. I'm there for her I listen I share experiences. I do what any great friend would do. Sometimes I feel like maybe I should walk away. But NO...I'm committed and strong I offer what I can when i can. I leave her be when she needs space...I'm there when she needs me. I know that I'm doing a good job of supporting her. I KNOW THIS. In any partnership when one feels down the other needs to lift you up. She does that for me. I will continue to do that for her. Here I'm going to take from my days in the military. And just say
STAND FAST....she is so worth it!
The hardest thing I find in any relationship is long distance. You can certianly be there for someone. But being there for my partner has proved to be tough. She goes through alot in her life. All I can do is listen and try to understand her. Give advice. Alot of her everyday life is similar to mine. I just want to nmbe there....hold her ... kiss her. Tell her everything is gonna be ok. I so desperatly want her to know I'm there for her. Through thick and thin. Shes very important to me. Always will be. I've always been a big proponent of communication. Actions to me are a big part of that.
To my special someone.....I do care. Deeply. Just talk to me. 🤗
I'd like to know if anyone else has these same struggles. How do you deal?
Any feedback is muchly appreciated.
Hey there...
I've been learning alot about this lifestyle I love reading all the blogs or different kinks. And everyday life. Most are very interesting.
Today I wanted to talk about little space. I'm really new to this part. Loving it so far mind you. My partner has a little space she goes to from time to time. Most intriguing to me is mid conversation. Poof! Shes a little. Doesnt take mich at all. For a dom I can see how frustrating insta-little space can be. For me I recognize right away what just happened. I feel good about knowing my partner that well. Recognize the subtleties in you're partner, It's very much appreciated by both sides.
I'm learning to watch for signs. And enjoying every min of it.
Hey everyone
I was talking to my wonderful partner today. Reminicing about some past experiences, some good some not so great. You'll remember one of my earlier posts about the not so good. I remember when I first connected with her. She was fragile and felt worthless. I tend to frown upon people who feel that way about themselves. For me I find the good in everyone. I'm happy to say shes gaining confidence daily. I reinforce how wonderful she is in her everyday life. How great of a partner she is to me. Really teaching me about not only the lifestyle but everyday life. Shes wonderful in every sense of the word. I am truly blessed.
This leads me to my pet peeve ...
I tend to feel upset and frustrated when she said she felt powerless and worthless. Honestly I felt sad. She had been in a toxic relationship prior to this. In my opinion not very healthy. Made to feel like she was ALWAYS in the wrong. This simply isnt true. After months of getting to know each other. Talking about everything. COMMINICATING. I see the pure intelligence that she is now starting to see in herself. Shes rebuilding herself. A strong woman. Trusting in herself again. I've never fancied a weak submissive partner. I fancy one that knows what she wants.
She is.....
Gorgeous..Graceful..intelligent..wonderful..uplifting..caring..perfect..honest
She may not have seen herself as any of those things in the past. But I sure am trying to get her to see what I see now.
She is strong!.....she is my girl!
As I delve into the BDSM world I'm finding more and more interesting things out. Loving every minute of it btw.
I've learned to take my partnership very seriously. Listening to what my partner has to say is the most important thing in any relationship, vanilla or otherwise. Sad, happy, excited, little space. It's all very important to pay attention to. I appreciate every aspect, I hang on every word. We are very new partners and as in any relationship getting to know one another is key to a great dynamic.
Today is all about thoughts to paper. I'll always be listening and learning. Understanding is reward. Understand your partner, ne sympathetic to their needs. Your bond will be hard to break.
To my special one...
I'm listening I'm here....always!
Nassau
Hello again it's me Nassau
I just wanted to give thanks to my partner. With out her I'd have nothing. So many times we focus on ourselves and forget the ones around us. I appreciate all that my partner does to lift me up and keep me grounded at the same time. All the joy and the sorrow we've endured is all special and important.
To quote a famous country singer.
"If I didnt have you...I'd have nothing at all"
Thank you princess you mean the world to me.
Some days you feel like you're riding high on that wave. Things are going so well and you think "YES This us awesome". Other days..kinda like the one i had the other day....really suck. Life kinda gets in the way sometimes. You never mean for it to happen but it just does. I made a big mistake. Yes I can admit to it. I was so wrapped up in things that were going on with me that I inadvertently forgot my most crutial role as a dom. My partner felt like she was not a priority.😞 I always put her first. Shes my world. Everything that a man could ask for. Now some of you are thinking I shouldn't feel bad life does get in the way. But quite honestly I really do! She needed me and I messed up. First thing I learned as a new dom was TRUST is a big factor in any relationship. As a dom your submissive needs to be able to trust that you'll be there to guide her. Move her along the right path.
I cant lose focus of my number one. Without her I'm lost. I need to be considerate of her feelings. And be sure not to make the same mistakes twice. I'm new..but that doesnt excuse me for not being there. I am happy to say that I've learned from this experience and I'll keep that forever.
I'm not sure she will read this or not. But princess you can count on me. I will not falter again.
Hello....Nassau' here
New to the lifestyle. I've been learning and growing as a dom. I am also a switch. Sometimes I find being a dom difficult. Learning this new lifestyle comes with some challenges. Likes and dislikes of your partner. Helping them progress as a submissive. The switch in me says "dont over do it" while the dom in me says "she wont be hurt, she craves this". Every day I'm learning more and more. I call it light reading.
Questions I battle everyday are simple. Is this a situation I should correct. Or something that I should let go? Is this a rewarding situation? I'm a father and a caring one at that. I know my partner needs structure. I know she craves it. My difficulty is that we are just getting to know each other. I shouldn't overthink things but sometimes I cant help it. I want to make sure shes happy. I know she craves attention and I give her alot. Sometimes I think I don't give her enough. I cant be indecisive I never have in my career or as a parent, so why start now right? I need to push past this and realize that I am a dom. I need to just put it out there. Be the me I know I am and can be. Pushing past this will be good for me and her.