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4 years ago. November 22, 2019 at 2:26 PM

Some days you feel like you're riding high on that wave.  Things are going so well  and you think "YES This us awesome".  Other days..kinda like the one i had  the other day....really suck.  Life kinda gets in the way sometimes.  You never mean for it to happen but it just does.  I made a big mistake. Yes I can admit to it.  I was so wrapped up in things that were going on with me that I inadvertently forgot my most crutial role as a dom.  My partner felt like she was not a priority.😞 I always put her first. Shes my world.  Everything that a man could ask for.  Now some of you are thinking I shouldn't feel bad life does get in the way.  But quite honestly I really do! She needed me and I messed up.  First thing I learned as a new dom was TRUST is a big factor in any relationship.  As a dom your submissive needs to be able to trust that you'll be there to guide her.  Move her along the right path.  

I cant lose focus of my number one.  Without her I'm lost.  I need to be considerate of her feelings.  And be sure not to make the same mistakes twice.  I'm new..but that doesnt excuse me for not being there.  I am happy to say that I've learned from this experience and I'll keep that forever.  

I'm not sure she will read this or not.  But princess you can count on me.  I will not falter again.  

 

 

 

Litlegrl​(sub female){Dragon11} - This is great that you are able to say "I made a mistake. I learned. It won't happen again." Too many times Doms will think they don't have to be apologetic for life or mistakes (luckily I don't have one 😊). It is good you don't fall into that.
4 years ago
Nassau' - Ty kitten.....this is a big learning curve. I always own up to my mistakes. I've got a busy life. But again that's no excuse for not making my partner fell like shes a priority. I should have stopped what I was doing and focused on her.
4 years ago
PHXDom​(dom male) -
I completely agree with your sentiment, and yes, it's okay to make mistakes. It's ok not to be perfect. You try to do your best and that's all you can do. If she sees you are trying, then this is what counts. Mistakes are the biggest educators.
You said that there was no excuse for not making your partner feel like she was a priority. I'd say take a look at what was going on around you at the time. Where there events that you had to take care of, that actually HAD to take priority? Its okay to prioritize, too...
It's abundantly clear that you care. Never stop caring, because the minute you do is the minute she has lost you.
4 years ago
Nassau' - I do care immensely. Ty Phoenix
4 years ago
Bleiz​(sub female) - It says a lot that you are willing to own up to your mistakes, and that you want to make changes for it doesn't happen again. I'm sure she'll understand.
4 years ago
Nassau' - Ty Bleiz.....I hope so. She means alot to me...
4 years ago

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