Just my own $0.02, nothing in stone here!
As odd as it sounds and sure it back fires a lot for myself 😄 the best thing to do is chat with multiple even when you have interest in one because he’s nice, or strict or demanding in a way that turns you on.
Many are still new to either D/s IRL or online and still getting a feel for your own interests, limits and boundaries.
Chat with multiple to get a feel for their direction, kinks, preference and most importantly connection between the two of you.
When you have someone of interest they will always be at the back of your mind over another so if you can connect with multiple but have the urge to keep going back to that one then they could be that connection you’re looking for.
With that said they could move along as well so it is a bit of a cat and mouse game.
Most importantly be up front and truthful to the other and yourself. Online is easier to open up and being up front from the start can help two either connect faster or end it faster rather than dragging it out and finding there’re differences in opinions, thoughts, kinks and your outlooks.
Again just my two cents but I feel if two can establish that connection and friendship and still have that D/s dynamic then there is a greater chance for two individuals to jive and build that bond and foundation of respect and trust.
Happy hunting everyone :)
