Compassion With A Firm Hand

Being submissive doesn’t mean you’re giving up complete control and decisions for someone to point you in the wrong direction. 

Being submissive is allowing someone to control and make decisions for you and to push your limits and growth. 

Being submissive you hold the cards. You’re choosing to allow someone you trust make decisions that you will follow. 

Being submissive takes more strength to “submit” that it does to ask for it  

Being submissive is having strength!

When is degrading and humiliating a sub ok? Well, this is a subs decision. If it’s not their thing then it should be something a Dom should NOT put pressure on. Some like it and some don’t. Simple as that!

For those that are into degrading and humiliating acts I feel this should only be done when with someone they truly trust. Depending on the situation a sub may soon after need to be cared for and re assured that they are safe and have your hand to hold if needed.

Such acts are meant to be rewarding for both parties but it takes A LOT more strength for a sub than it does a Dom. 

Aftercare is not a reward, it should be a requirement from a Dom.

As per usual just my $0.02 for what it’s worth!

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Tks M and for the quick wishes! 😎

you smiled with delight

yet eyes show chaos and wild

your mind is my pleasure

your pleasure is my bind

to call you mine

is to respect and collar

to pleasure your mind

is to attain your trust and be my treasure

I’ve chatted with a fair number of new and experienced subs on here and always curious how one’s time on this site has been and it always seems to be mixed. 

I’ve heard good things with meeting and chatting with potential Doms to those that are rude out of the gate demanding a sub to give in and do something they ask to telling a sub that if they want to learn they’re the person to work with and that said sub should pay for their services. 

It seems to be mixed but to hear about so many bad experiences seems to fuel the idea no communication is needed and that just jumping into the deep end and doing as one’s told is the way to go. 

Well……… this can’t be any further from the truth!

Though geared towards those new to BDSM, D/s, online and IRL play you should still be treated with respect! It’s one thing to create a bond with someone and earn respect and trust between one another to then be Dom or sub to one another but communicating and respecting one another is still needed. 

If shy about your interests at least be open and secure with yourself to either ignore bad behaviour that does not appeal to you or basically tell them to piss off.

For someone to demand anything without chatting and at least some sort of hello message seems to to just be inappropriate. 

Be safe, respectful and enjoy yourself.

This is just my $0.02 and just my own opinion, nothing in stone! 

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When it comes to an online relationship it can take a great deal of time, communication and effort to find that right person that you jive with and to keeping things flowing communication is key.

Yes we’re D/s but being able to strike up general chat keeps everything flowing and builds on a relationship  

For myself this communication is a dedicated website/domain where the two of us are the only two users of the site. This is our online portal for all things US! 

Think of it as a Facebook site dedicated to just the two of us. It’s open for posting whatever comes to mind. Have a photo? Maybe a link to another site or perhaps a good morning message? This is all on the timeline. This is also where we have a dedicated page for our rules and tasks. Need a calendar? We have that. Want a messenger? We have that as well. 

This is our space, your private and safe space for nobody else to see besides us! 

This is how I setup a relation between myself and a sub so we have smooth communication and not just have it “structured” but fun and comfortable. 

I get the odd out of blue DM’s asking if I can give them a task so I’ve decide to share the odd one. If you get excited to accomplish a given task fantastic! If you want to DM me that you completed one then great. If you don’t want to great as well.

Task 6 - Red Hot Ass

Ideally when home alone do not strip down but simply pull your pants and underwear to your ankles.

Next grab your favourite toy to insert. If it vibrates even better and turn it on. You’re to insert and hold into place. Do not pull it out or play with your fuck hole.

Now pick out a nice firm flat object such as a paddle or hair brush.

Next find a cozy chair or couch arm to lean over all while holding your toy into place. If it’s vibrating or not you’re to hold off from cumming as you’re not allowed.

Now with your paddle or hair brush your are to select your ass cheek that you can reach.

You’re to firmly slap said cheek with 15 firm slaps. If you do not feel you can do a firm slap and want to take it easy then stop.

You’re have a hot red ass after. The goal is to feel that red hot ass when you sit down.

You’re to NOT cum at all from the toy held into place.

If you complete 15 take a moment to collect yourself still holding your toy into place.

When ready you’re to repeat with the same toy placement and paddle object with the same cheek but this time you’re to play with the toy. Aim for another 15 slaps and if you feel like you’re about to cum you’re to stop and breath and collect your self.

As you reach the second round of 15 and feel your ass getting brutally hot and sore you’re to bring yourself to orgasm at 15th slap.

Once done pull up your pants. After complete you will feel your hot ass for the day.

I get the odd out of blue DM’s asking if I can give them a task so I’ve decide to share the odd one. If you get excited to accomplish a given task fantastic! If you want to DM me that you completed one then great. If you don’t want to great as well.

Task 5 - Plug’n Go

Before you head out to do some running around insert 5 ice cubes into your tight ass to then follow it up with your largest plug. Once plugged good and holding tight to not leak you can start your running around.

When you’re out stop into a gas station, store etc. with a bathroom. Pull out your plug trying to keep tight from leaking. Lick your plug clean to then re insert.

Remove plug when you get home.

You can insert more ice if you wish to do so.

I get the odd out of blue DM’s asking if I can give them a task so I’ve decide to share the odd one. If you get excited to accomplish a given task fantastic! If you want to DM me that you completed one then great. If you don’t want to great as well.

Task 4 - Take it off or turn it around

** Easy task intended more for discomfort and self humiliation

The next time you head to a store or gas station go to the bathroom and quickly strip down for one of the following:

- Take off your bra and panties and stuff them away

- Take off panties and put them on backwards and take bra and turn it around so clip is in the front above your breasts or below your breasts waist height if strapless

Continue your outing until you get home or another store to visit a bathroom again to fix yourself up.

I get the odd out of blue DM’s asking if I can give them a task so I’ve decide to share the odd one. If you get excited to accomplish a given task fantastic! If you want to DM me that you completed one then great. If you don’t want to great as well.

Task 3 - Edge & Release

Find a small ball or object that’s firm and round. Find a wall in which you have room to stand and hold the ball against the wall. 

Your task is to play with your hole to an orgasmic release but you’re to edge five times before you can let your yourself release on the sixth round. 

Facing the wall take your ball and place it on the wall then with your forehead hold the ball in place. 

Now without touching the object with your hands you’re to hold it in place while you bring yourself close to orgasm five times. 

Use one or two hands and insert your fingers into your warmth and wet goodness. Bring yourself to a orgasmic barrier where close to release and shake from pleasure but stop just prior. 

Without adjusting the ball or letting it drop let yourself cool down enough that the sensation has subsided then play again. 

You should feel your lips shiver with excitement and pleasure all while trying to keep attention to the object on the wall.

Getting to orgasm isn’t the goal but to hold the object in place and keep control! 

If you bring yourself and edge close to orgasm five times and cool down you can then complete the sixth to orgasm. 

If the object drops you’re done.