So a member asked me if I had heard about TIH (Take in Hand). It is male led relationship 1950's style relationship. I had not so I looked it up. Aha!! This is the kind of marriage I had without the communication part of it. He wanted full control no questions asked but never told me that. The roles were not clearly defined. My ex is an introverted thinker. I am an extroverted thinker. So as I am thinking I say everything that I am thinking. So he was constantly asking me to be quiet so that he could think. I was constantly asking him to say anything!!!
Next aha moment!! I need an extroverted thinker!! One who likes to talk out their issues so that we are both on the same page. So where I like the male dominant type relationship and the 1950's style I also need kink, communication along with mutual respect, honesty, adorations.