I am enough

My name is my mantra. Even though not everyone treats me like I am enough. I know that I am enough for someone.

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4 years ago. February 27, 2020 at 2:24 PM

I am a die-hard Christian woman first and foremost. But I also love kink. My question is, is it fair of me to be looking for a Dom who wants full control if I want the Lord to lead me first? Any other Christian kinksters out there with this same dilemma? I know I need a leader in my life. One who will keep order, as I know I am inadequate for that. Or should I be looking for a vanilla Christian who just happens to like kink also? I just don't want to be unfair to anyone. If someone claims me and I find myself with this same battle it was not fair of me to give him control and then take it away. No matter how much I trust him, if I find myself uncomfortable with what I am doing I will ask for that control back. I am one who shies away when nervous or unsure of myself. That is the little girl in me. She will never go away as she is part of who I am. But she can gain confidence and have reassurance with the right man. I am just still figuring out what kind of man that is. I know that I refuse to live without kink again though. I didn't feel whole without it. I felt like my sex life was missing something. And it was, the bondage and the play. But at the same time, can I have a Dom and God. Is there any Dom that would put Christ before himself and then is his needs. A Dom not asking a sub to worship any part of him and help guide her and himself closer to God first and then the kink comes second. I am not sure if that exists or not. A few Doms have said they are Christians but don't go to church or have the same beliefs as I do. Am I looking for the impossible? Or am I looking in the wrong place? I know what I need, just trying to find it and in the mean time keep learning.

Sir Don(dom male){InTalksWS} - I think first and foremost you have to make a connection.. sounds like you want a vanilla and kink lifestyle.. the right dom that finds you appealing is also going to be appreciative of your beliefs ... speaking from a personal experience... I came on here expecting just a BDSM relationship and I got so much more.. it is a partner with my same thoughts and desires beyond the bedroom or dungeon .
I think what you are seeking is possible. It is just going to take time and perseverance

DDFH

4 years ago

IowaDom(dom male) - I guess I fail to see the disconnect here? Does this not fot what you are asking?.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

4 years ago

Sir Don(dom male){InTalksWS} - Sounds like a connection....

4 years ago

I am enough(sub female) - Thank you for all who responded to my thoughts. I greatly appreciate your time and words.

4 years ago

Litlegrl(sub female){Dragon11} - First, completely agree with IowaDom. I love that verse. More because it explains why a wife submits and why a husband is head of household.
With regards to being Christian and a sub, I thought it would be difficult to submit to both God and a Dom. However, the right Dom will understand your beliefs, respect them and help you grow and explore them. If your Dom doesn't respect your beliefs, then look elsewhere. Personally, my Daddy Dragon knows I take my beliefs seriously and is very respectful of them. He has never asked me to compromise or do something that I would find in opposition to them. That is how it should be.

4 years ago

I am enough(sub female) - Thank you so much for this!! I hope to find the same.

4 years ago

Devotedsub(sub female){His} - Agreed with all said above. And any Dom who is worthy of your time will respect your beliefs. I too will not put any person or thing above the Lord... If a Dom asked that of me, knowing my beliefs,... They wouldn't be respecting them. Therefore, they wouldn't be the right Dom. My Master respects my religion and never would ask I put him above God. The right one is out there my dear, just pay close attention when you get to know someone and communicate well.

4 years ago

I am enough(sub female) - Thank you!!

4 years ago

WhatamIfightingfor(dom male) - I reading this over the words active and passive come to mind, or better put one like to be actively entertained while the other like to be on the receiving end of the entertainment. Not the best choice of words, but for me helps separate the words meanings. For to me it is God first, relationship first. Always good to know what you need in a relationship and be clear about it. Focus on the right path and things will work out.

4 years ago

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