So I read profiles, blogs and forums and the verbiage that continues to make me chuckle is "You have to earn my "x" " Submission, trust, love, blah blah blah. I find it funny just because it's not well thought out. Earn it: How does one earn what is in your head to determine? I earn pay from my job. They tell me what is expected, they equip me to do the job so that I might succeed in earning the pay per our agreement. What is the guide lines for this earning that you so seek? What is the correct mosh up of words that will successfully unlock this mystical box wherein you hold your "X"? At what point does one not understand that first... this is on-line & as many of you know there are a LOT of fakers out there just wanting what they want, similar to doing what you are doing. What is the time frame for this earned "X"? Days, Weeks, Months, Years? Why are you so vague with what you are offering? How is the one looking at you supposed to know if YOU are right for them when you are effectively saying: You show me who you are while I hide who I am, but when I deem you worthy of my "X", I may not be the person you wanted in the first place. lol Seems like it's a bit hypercritical and openly deceptive. Yet the person vying for attention is suppose to jump through (Usually) a hell of a lot of hoops, just to find out that you're not what they are looking for and once they do, they no longer want in the relationship which makes them a "Monster" or "asshole"... Really? They was open with you, they jumped through your hoops and you don't see wherein you are unintentionally setting them and yourself up for failure?
I'm a sadist. I'm primal. I'm polyamorous seeking a Triad or V, 24/7 dynamic. I'm 2 steps shy of nympho. I don't cry. I lack empathy, sympathy, and compassion. I'm an asshole at times (for some of you this time is now lol). I'm stable, I'm the safe harbor in chaos, I'm a Master. I'm headstrong but willing to listen. I have mood swings. I have negatives and positives about myself that I'm more than willing to share. At least I'm real about who I am, can you say the same? The man you meet in me, on-line is the same one in person, today, yesterday and tomorrow. Perhaps the reason why you tend to have repetitive cycles of "falling in love, crash and burn" is because you're unable to be real about who you are. First to you, secondly to those poor fools who chase you. Your insecurity, your instability, your inability to trust or hear, your unwillingness to open up because you don't want to be hurt... Is on you. You're not Adam. You're not Eve. Nor am I. We've all been hurt, some more than others, but the facts still remain... If you can't give it, nobody can ever Earn it. It's up to you to open up and take that chance. There is many many blogs on how to spot "predator's". Be responsible for yourself and start being clear in what you mean. If it's a hard no, it should stay consistently a hard no. If its what you want, it should be consistently what you say, how you act, who you are. Yes we are constantly changing, evolving and growing (hopefully), especially in a relationship but the core you should always remain consistent.
And to lighten the mood...
If this was all too offensive for you, blame ^Angelbunny^ She fell asleep while I was writing this and didn't get to proof it to "soften it up a bit." ??