An annoyance to be sure... Seems that it's a thing to be right or wrong, like it's some kind of fukn badge of honor whereby you will be noted in the logs of History. I don't get it. It's an endless Avenue of stress, bickering, hurt feelings and implantation of self doubt.
I'm not the world's smartest man & I'll admit that upfront. I don't have any degrees added to my name but I'm not stupid either. I've watch a shit ton of documentaries, set my own bones, stitched my own wounds, been shot at, stabbed and assaulted several times throughout my life. I've walked a rough path and I got this asshole who resides within me that tells me shit that I don't know how I know, I just know. I'm not a know-it-all, hell I'd rather just stay silent most the time but when drawn into a conversation, I'll just say what I know and not think anything of it... until, inevitably, I need to be proven wrong. 😒
I know I'm there with a person soon as I see them whip out their phone to google it. I don't mind the first dozen times, it's just establish that I know what the fuk I'm saying which means you can be more confident in me. Less stress on you, less worrying, less guess work. Fuk me... I didn't say it to be "right". So why the need to prove me wrong? I'm not saying that healthy investigation of your own shit and situations is a bad thing. What you do outside my visual range, I'm completely unaware of. If you are just checking to have more validation on the topic, that's fine... have at it. But when ya whip out the phone and go googling... your only trying to prove me wrong. For the sake of me being wrong.
Think about it for a moment... You don't care about "right"... you're not going to ego boost me but you'll brood when you find out the information was correct. You'll come back to "Ha! You was wrong!" ... mmmmkay. So? 1 in how many times? Glad it provoked you so deeply that you did your own research instead of coming... oh... wait... you came to me first, instead of doing your research...
For a people riddled with self doubt, wishing for a partner they can trust, rely on and bring anything to, y'all are pretty shitty to that person once you find them. You create a monster in yourself instead of finding release and confidence. You cause a wall of mistrust due to the nature of causing second guessing on the true intention of the whole fukn conversation. Said mistrust equals out into guarded conversations or simply NOT communicating at all due to being attacked with your need for me to be wrong. Why should I say shit if you don't believe me & feel the need to second guess my every comment? I'm not you. I don't doubt my words. I say what I mean and most the time I'm more concerned with hurting you than you give me credit for.
Why do you NEED me to be wrong?
The really sad thing to all this is... it's been part of my life for so long that I intentionally say something that I know is wrong, just so you can find something. To see how you react when ya do.
To me, to be right just means you have knowledge and or experience. To be wrong means you're growing and you now have said knowledge. In an argument there is no such thing as right or wrong. Nobody wins, no matter the outcome. Why do people insist on fighting over such petty shit when life is a one time experience and love is hard to find... I don't need mine full of other people's shit, doubt and disrespect. You don't want that, right?
Till you stop asking me questions, I'm going to have or seek answers so I might be a better Master for better Slaves. If my information is unwanted, I don't have to say anything but then... no whining about the silence between us either.
Is proving a person wrong, worth the cost when they are supposed to be the focus of your desire, care and love?
If the situation was reversed, how would you feel about your partners constant googling of your information?
Just something to think about.
Max.
