Hi All--
Did a ton of recordings over weekend and will begin processing them up into Youtubes, just as soon as I have a moment free from the workweek!
I do welcome requests & ideas, but here are a few of the next topics I have in progress:
- Sure, we all love Toys, Tools, and Lingerie but....really what most of us seek is -Intensity- in our Relationships. Those other things are but an external sign of the fact that most of us in the real-life bdsm community have a Lot More to Give. And a lot more Desire to Receive. than the vanilla person.
- Welcome to the Camp, your new Hobby is your Dynamic...and your Community
- Words of Advice for Doms & Tops, young and old!
- Words of Advice for Bottoms & Subs, young and old!
- The Hunger, How to let it Consume you, but only in the most constructive of ways. Learning to heal neediness, self-centeredness, and ego - yet also get more of the things you love and need.
- OKOK, I've been teasing you with a bunch of deep, sensitive stuff, and everyone has been great about that . SO, the below is the real #2 lecture after (i) above. And then we're going to be super practical and hands-on, with topics like:
- The Kraken's super killer, Sexiest-ever approach to Consent & Communication. It is a process, not a one-liner, that can make all of your playtimes, dynamics, and relationships -both long and short-term- extremely satisfying.
- How to join the real-life community as well as this lovely Online One. How to find Munches (lunch groups) & Educationals in your area. What to expect and how to conduct yourself. There are some -amazing- classes out there, and most don't even cost $$.
- Relationship Types & Play Categories. From casual to forever - and from mostly-Vanilla to extremely-Edgy
- Ideas on designing, creating, and writing Scenes & Dynamics. Tracking Protocols, Rituals, and Structure - making it all super sexy & fun
#2 Upcoming -
Sure, whips, ropes, and toys are fun for some; and there is a ton of great education out there for those interested. But what if your interests are more vanilla, or D\s-oriented, or focused on topics like power exchange, epic romance, or pet play? Don't forget the DS middle of BDSM, either. The sexiest part, imo!
Most folks seem to believe (or fantasize) that Dominance & Submission means “Get on your knees and beg for it” or just plain “Used and Abused.” And that Poly means “Swingers” and “Casual Sex.” Those days are long gone, if they ever existed at all, outside of porn & romance novels.
Today’s D\s Dynamics are much richer and nuanced, as well as incredibly deep and bonding. Everyone (and their partner) has unique tastes, and the secret is in learning to blend and fulfill Desires in both directions, and of course, be well-matched in the first place. We cannot just slap on a particular BDSM hobby and tell or force someone to like it. We must study and look inside ourselves and our people.
So whether your idea of a good time is:
- Something out of a hot sexy movie with a cuffs-n-rough-sex BDSM vibe
- Super Classy, structured, high protocol. Professors, canes, & pocket watches
- Super cute, but highly structured Pet Play. Maybe it is not sexual at all, but it does have a ton of cool rules, protocols, and specialty collars/masks. And yes: kitten ears!!!
- Dress-up & show-off, be it classic lingerie, cosplay, of something of your own style
- Perhaps a little Feudal Japan, capture-ties and shibari
- Kinky parties & impact play. Maybe you seek fun, but not a relationship - and that's OK
- 1950s Household or a special "family" of bdsm-ers that you call family, with a special group Dynamic to boot
- Deep throat training, Chastity, Learning to Orgasm by voice only. Vibrators, Vinyl, Latex.
- Formal: You, dressed to the 9’s, in a slick suit (or form-fitting latex catsuit or black dress and heels), whip or crop in hand, and your girl (or boy) trussed and dressed in strappy lingerie or leather. Cuffs & ball gags.
- Dracula and his Princess. Or other, more mammalian and Primal themes.
- Master / slave, be that cute, strict, loving, or classic. Old School Leather, Gorean, Roman.
- Military-style. Precision will be drilled into you, and you will always look and present as extra-sharp.
- Same could apply to a domestic-service role and the head of household.
- Romantic, sexy, or intense Objectification & intense structure - either of an uplifting or a degrading style, according to -both partners- tastes
We’ve got you covered. Most of you will like 1 or2 of these themes, not all of them!
Walking this path unlocks a high degree of personal power for both you and your partner and is a secret of self-transformation and growth. See which of these items give you a special vibe and which are utterly distasteful to you. Some will even be triggering!
I would love it if people wanted to help me focus the talk by telling me their fav themes, or ones I might have left out. And remember: it is all about How this stuff makes your Feel. And what Feeling -you- want to induce in your Dominant or submissive partner or friend.
- Kraken