I’ve never been naive maybe uneducated or green. But it wasn’t until I attended real lifestyle events that I realized how quickly online dynamics can become warped. Conversations and interactions on this site and sites like these tend to be overtly sexual. But we’re on a kink site so this should be the case right? Well yes... but also no. Let me explain.
(Based on my experience, don’t misquote me)
In my experience, most Doms try and often succeed in manipulating subs into giving them sexual favors under the guise of a real dynamic relationship. This shouldn’t be the case. If you are here for sexual gratification, great! Clearly state so. There are plenty of people here for the same things.
I learned from experience and unfortunately was taken advantage of. But this blog is here to help new subs navigate the lifestyle with some tools to avoid the mistakes and assumptions I made. A BDSM dynamic does not have to be about only receiving and giving sexual favors, it can and dare I say should also be about mutual fulfillment, discipline, and respect .
New subs don’t be afraid to reach out when you are unsure of something. (Also see previous post-Our advice to new submissives). New Dom(mes), take the time to learn and also clearly state your intentions. Form a support group of more experienced and knowledgeable individuals in the lifestyle.
I’m still learning but I’m always happy to share what I know.
*Hey guys, life got the better of me, but I plan to be way more active this year thanks for reading my twilight thoughts!*
