You are both married, but not to each other.
You live in Seattle, she lives in Miami.
You are both deeply in love but will never meet in person.
She wants to serve her master but life keeps getting in the way.
He wants to be a good Dom but has trouble finding time between work and kids.
We all have needs, wants and desires that are often trumped by circumstances beyond our control. Letting priorities get in our way can sometimes make us feel inadequate or unworthy. These feelings can be overwhelming when one partner is unsure if the other is satisfied with the relationship and can often lead to misunderstanding, arguments or just general unpleasantness. This is especially true in a D/s relationship where the two partners aren’t living together.
It’s not something that can be prevented 100% of the time but can be resolved through proper communication. Doms should always reassure their submissives that they understand that life’s priorities will always trump their ability to complete some tasks. Remind her that you love her and how much she means to you. Don’t allow her to feel like she has failed you. It’s not her fault so make sure she knows you aren’t disappointed in her. There will be disappointment, sure, but make it clear that she understands it’s only about the specific thing and not about her in general.
At the end of the day nothing is ever perfect. There will be downright disastrous days that will leave you feeling empty and alone. Those are the hard days that make you doubt yourself and your relationship. The one thing to remember is that where there is love, there is always a way. That way is always through communication. Don’t brush problems under the rug and pretend they aren’t there. Talk about them. Really, truly talk about the things that bother you with your partner. Make sure they understand not only what the issue was but also WHY it was an issue.
If you find yourself with someone who just won’t talk about it then honestly they probably don’t care enough about the relationship and you should probably reevaluate your entire association with that person.
You’re both in it together so make use of your most valuable resources; love and trust. If both are strong then any obstacle can be overcome with simple communication.
