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Master_Jax​(dom male){Lil Ms Gem} - It depends on the nature of the agreement the sub has made with the dom. If the agreement is that obedience is the key point then yes sub should but if is the dom being jealous or insecure over the sub well then the sub should be brave for a minute go outside of d/s status and get issue clear. Trust respect responsibility safety and communication are essential to this life if one starts to become effected by some outside emotional issue then problems arise. Be safe talk out concerning issue resolve it before the relationship is lost. Taking a breath once and a while help build upon the foundations that are in place for a better more stable d/s relationship.

Velvetdreams​(sub female) - Thank you, Sir, for your input and wisdom.

Master_Jax​(dom male){Lil Ms Gem} - Your welcome.
As a Dom I've found it unsettling that their are so many of us but too many that haven't read up to better themselves. That's in no way a bad reflection as each of us are in different setting's so they may have very good reasons for not being able to gain the information needed, I don't know. But because of my past the things I had to over come I had to learn so that I didn't turn into one of those kinds of people that I detest. I was close I'm ashamed to say so I gained all I could to not become that I have a diploma in psychology didn't go beyond that as I had gained what I was after. I studied hard on emotions spirituality mythology current behavior patterns I expanded my knowledge because it was necessary. This is sounding as if I have a superiority complex not the case I'm very factual in how I approach things for me things have to make sense or I don't include them into use. I hope that makes sense to you as I'm always here to give what insight or advice I can I'll not make it up if I don't know how to answer. Anyway play safe. J

Velvetdreams​(sub female) - I always appreciate your perspective, Sir! You are right, we all are coming from a different place, and respond differently. Yet there are things subs have in common, I think, and there are things Dom/mes have in common. ?The trick is in how to match them up for the good of both!

Master_Jax​(dom male){Lil Ms Gem} - To true everyone has some unique insight that they can bring to the table.

Master_Jax​(dom male){Lil Ms Gem} - Your on to something with that maybe for those s/d relationships that the communication barrier is a little out of reach the sub can write to on a sheet of paper pros and cons for a subject. That way themselves and their dom can work with what's written and explore it at a different angle. Everyone is different to how they approach a particular subject so if it's finding the right words write it down. Communication is so vital it's the ultimate breath play a little air now and then is all good because you can just carry on then.

Velvetdreams​(sub female) - Exactly, Sir! I am so blessed that Master understood my confusion, and we are working to get beyond it. We will be face to face in a week! Woohoo!!! Thank you, Sir, for your encouragement!

Master_Jax​(dom male){Lil Ms Gem} - Getting the complicated things out of the way first is always best spending a short time outside of the relationship to reflect you find out if your meeting their wants needs and they you. Then once that's all done it's time to play whatever respectable games, roles or kinks without the pressure of am I doing this right or is that what they want. Those questions while together distract you from each other and let's face it you want to be the only thing in that room at that time that exists. Catering the others needs and wants in full.