Perhaps the most trying part of D/s, like any relationship, is the communication between the "D" and the "s." There are so many traps and games people play, especially online, it is hard to trust enough to be REAL.
Then, there are behaviors common to submissive's, part of our submissive nature, that craves attention & affection while we struggle to surrender our will (etc.)
Example: Dom has placed an hourly check in rule on his sub. She does her best to comply, every hour sending text telling him what she's doing, where she is and what she's feeling. He replies, "OK."
She wonders if he has lost interest, if she's just annoying him, or any number of other goofy things. Or is it a power play? Is he testing her?
She continues to obey, to report in hourly... Or should she? ?