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Here is where I will talk about the ups and downs of my journey to finding my mentor and naturing my submissive plus all the things that come with it!
3 years ago. May 20, 2020 at 11:13 PM

Introvert  means a shy reticent person, reticent means not revealing one's thoughts or feelings readily.

 


The thought for this came to me  after a worldwide of an encounter I had a yesterday mixed with some prior encounters before that. My bios says it and I expressed it many times while messaging that I am an introvert. Many of the Doms I speak with express how that is okay and how they understand. But then seconds later ask for sexual things or want to jump right into an intense conversation. Here’s why that doesn’t work for someone like me.

I am not  the type of introvert that gets a little shy in a crowd or takes a second to warm up to new setting. I am on the more extreme side where large setting can be crippling for me, confrontation can be paralyzing and fear ridden. I’m already out of my comfort zone and need to slowly progress into getting to know the person I’m talking to. I may not be extremely expresses in conversation and give short worded answers but it doesn’t mean that I’m not paying attention or not engaged. The encounter caused me to sit back and reflect on a few things. Even though the situation could have been handle with much more maturity than it was handle with. It doesn’t subtract from the fact that feelings were clearly hurt. So my question for Subs and Doms alike how would you approach a situation with an introvert and how should an introvert engage in a situation. Although last night and this morning have been very taxing emotionally I don’t see any situation in life as useless I see them as lesson you can learn from and that’s what I’m trying to do to avoid and prevent this in the future.

 

Thanks for reading!

Jack in the box -
You cannot force a flower to bloom - slowly ends up a much prettier blossom
3 years ago
sweater​(sub female) - I love this quote I would like to use it in the future if that’s okay?
3 years ago
Jack in the box -
By all means
I am flattered ☺
3 years ago
LaVieEnRose​(sub female){Learning } - I’m an introvert as well, when my best friend and I go anywhere she does all the talking! But any “Dom” who starts asking for stuff ASAP it’s a HUGE red flag to move along because they’re not going to respect you or your boundaries.

But take some time and think about your answers don’t just write short responses because you think they want an answer right away. Expand upon what you would normally write, so take interest for instance and you like bondage. Expand on what it is about bondage you like and do you like just light, heavy, materials you’d like to try, etc. And the same thing goes for vanilla things.
3 years ago
sweater​(sub female) - This was very informative and a great way to approach conversations In the future thank you
3 years ago
MelMell​(dom female) - I, myself, am a bit of an introvert. I can be very shy at first but will warm up immediately and talk about anything. I use my dominant tendencies to push through shyness so it has never impacted my life. As a domme I like talking to my subs and getting to know them as a person and I’ve found that after having me talking like a parrot they feel very calm and relaxed. I have noticed other dominants aren’t like that though! Most dominants hide their emotions a lot and will jump right into the sexual. Just explain to them calmly that you want to take things slow and get to know each other. If they can’t accept that then leave and find a better dom.
3 years ago
EclecticRhetoric​(dom male) - I agree the solution to your problem may lie in the boundaries that you set for yourself and others. It takes time to build a fence and if yoir never taught the importance of a fence, you will let anyone in your yard. Trust is the door to that fence and time is the handle. You allow when it is opened and who you let it.
3 years ago
sweater​(sub female) - This was beautiful worded thank you
3 years ago
EclecticRhetoric​(dom male) - Thank you. I am eager to understand your struggle and assist in any way possible
3 years ago

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