Highway to hell

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - 🤗❤️🤗 words to follow, for sure. 😉

Davina sissy​(sub male){Davina} - From a brief reading I Sense you cake really close to falling in love with this person, or could just be my interpretation of it

MelMell​(dom female) - I was close to it. But certain things from his life and circumstances made me stop. Mostly all the red flags he gave me and there were a lot. I knew being with him was doomed since the start but I’m quite stubborn. I also shoved too much at him too fast. Too many desires and expectations he couldn’t meet.

SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - What timeframe are we talking here? Weeks? Or longer?

MelMell​(dom female) - Months. But sometimes when you just click right off the bat the emotions are so much stronger and overwhelming. His thinking was so similar to mine in almost everything.

Davina sissy​(sub male){Davina} - Nah trust this old soul, you can go at any paste you want it happens or it don't,and if you ever take anything from what I say, please do this,
Always remember your focus determines your reality

Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - If all seemed to be going well and obviously it was, cause you came to have feelings for him...then as the take charge woman you are...I would think that he'd be open to you shoving much at him...quickly. You mentioned, too many desires and expectations he couldn't meet. Couldn't or wouldn't? If couldn't is the case. ..I am hoping that in your greater wisdom as a woman, you are fully aware that no one man, will ever be able to meet ALL you want/expect. Still, if you'd so please to do so...you could still express what he meant to you. Might not do any good, but it could give him some good food for thought. As for being stubborn. ..that's a part of your nature and a right sub male for you...will love and adore all of you as you are. Well...these are just the thoughts I'm feeling, but as merely a male, you possess greater wisdom, especially in regard to your NECESSARY expectations. Overall though, I know the hurts of GOODBYE.

MelMell​(dom female) - Honestly my biggest expectation was for him to give me time and attention just as I was doing for him. But this last week he was all about being too busy to talk and the previous weekend he was dealing with anxiety and didn’t want to talk. I was understanding with both situations but it started to get to me. He wasn’t sending me the morning messages I had told him he needed to send and he had agreed to and would brush it off saying he was too busy. That’s bs. If you care, really care you will make time. It was reaching the point he wasn’t listening to me as his domme or partner. If I didn’t message him he would message me and I’d have to wait hours. When I asked him if him being like that was the new norm he said that he didn’t realize how busy he would get with work and that being a sub was too time consuming. I told him we were going to take a break and he didn’t even try to ask why which he normally would always do. There were other variables too I just don’t feel like talking about.

Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - I'll say this from the perspective of my past long lasting few relationships : As someone who is submissive and desirious to be your sub male and partner...you deserve to be his priority, to be the core center of his daily life, his main interest. Yes, one can be busy, but so are you. As a sub male's Domme, you rightfully deserve all the time and attention you want from him for your greater happiness, because your happiness should be a real goal for him, as well as a great source of his own happiness. Being your sub, involves his being your servant....doing whatever he can to have time for you. Telling him about taking a break, should have invoked from him, a need to know why. Being a male sub for a truly take charge woman is sharing a life that revolves more around you, not the other way around. A male should adore you as his first, his center and all in life. All else may very well be important. ..but should be secondary to what you say and/or decide. I Thank you for having shared your emotions. For you are more than just a Domme..you are fully WOMAN.

MelMell​(dom female) - He wasn’t able to keep up with the time I was demanding. And I have some faults too. I did raise some red flags that I could tell made him hesitant but he did raise more red flags for me and he did lie about something which I was willing to overlook as long as he could still keep his role as my sub and give me the attention I demanded of him.

MelMell​(dom female) - And I did also place expectations on him I didn’t place on my other subs because I didn’t feel towards them what I felt for him.

Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - We all have faults and even weaknesses. You are dominant, but should not be defined by that alone. You possess many other qualities and traits that are part of your total makeup as the unique individual Woman you are. A righteous sub may very well see imperfections, your ups and downs, your joys and tears at times, but he needs to treat you as THOUGH you are perfect. Then too, it's quite natural for you to place far more expectations on someone you come to carry special feelings about. He should not be lying to you, but your decision to overlook that was your decision and your decisions matter most. Still, were he with you...he'd have deserved correction of some sort.

MelMell​(dom female) - I just remembered you saying I should express how I felt towards him. I did. I told him how I felt. I told him I liked the small things that made him well.... him. I told him how much I loved to spend time with him and how I could see myself falling in love with him and that in a way I was already in that road to fall. I was always honest with him. I told him my vulnerabilities and fears. I gave of me as much as I possibly could.

IceGirl​(switch female) - If you know its time it is time! I am glad you know what you want have the courage to see it through.

Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - You were strong enough to be vulnerable and openly honest in regard to your feelings for him. It's a terrible shame that he failed to recognize the power, the beauty, the passion, the love and true gift he had come to have, in having a woman like you to belong to. I'm proud of you...in being all that you are towards him.

MelMell​(dom female) - I’ve never had a fear of showing my vulnerability. There’s strength in that. Knowing what makes you vulnerable and sharing it makes you stringers. I always share who I am deep inside because I believe in being honest. I always talk about my emotions and how I feel as I know that is very important. But I failed to realize he never opened up and showed me his wounds. He only listened about mine. That should have been a red flag for me.

Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - I wholeheartedly agree...there is strength in that, just as you say. Then too, as you have said, you believe in being honest. You deserve to be known fully as the woman you are and this can only be accomplished through open, honest communication. Only in knowing all you are. ..can result in your being adored, served, obeyed, followed and loved for all that you are. Yet, to hold righteous authority over a sub male, he needs to be honestly open and vulnerable towards you as well. Yes, it should have been a red flag for you...but now you know more of what to look for in the sense of red flags.