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My journey in life and the good and bad that comes with it. But mostly music.
4 years ago. October 14, 2020 at 3:19 PM

A few years back in one of the places I worked in one of my coworkers would always complain every time I could leave work early. Why did she complain? Her argument was that I was going home to sleep and play video games while she had to cancel plans to hang out with her friends cuz she had to work. In her eyes my free time was less valuable than hers as she was trying to build stronger bonds with her friend while I was being lazy. Well screw her and anyone like her. As an introvert that’s what I like doing and I do spend time with friend when playing video games. Friends I’ve probably known longer than she’s known hers! If she wanted to spend so much time with her friends so much then she shouldn’t work. Easy solution. Instead of criticizing someone else’s free time. Every time she would get with that bs I’d simply look her in the eyes and tell her my free time is just as valuable as hers and I didn’t give a flying fuck about her opinion on that matter. 
Another one that annoys me is when people say I only have a lot of free time because I live with my mother and she does everything for me. First of all, my mother doesn’t do everything for me. She only does her laundry and mine and cleans the house. She works from home so she can do all these things as she works and it ends up being more convenient. I spend over 40 hours going back and forth from my job and then actually being there so I don’t spend a lot of time at home. I eat at work so I don’t have to cook at home unless it’s my days off at which point I do actually cook. I’m the one that does the heavy grocery shopping since I love going grocery shopping and I buy enough food to last us for a month. Gas and going to the bank are things I do when I leave work or before I get to work. I’ve learned to manage my time around my work schedule so that when the weekend comes around I don’t have to leave the house at all and can spend those two days being a couch potato. And even on those days off I tend to be the one cooking and will clean a bit around the house and vacuum my room as I do have three very messy hamsters and one messy cat. So don’t come to me like “you have all that time because you live with your mom and she does everything for you!”  I just know how to manage my free time. And I pay any bills I have online. Normally through auto pay. I’m also not the type of person to buy clothes or shoes or any of those things and if I do buy them it’s online. I have amazon prime after all. 
Bottom line is, I don’t like people that criticize what I do on my free time or don’t do. You aren’t paying my bills or fucking me so your opinion is irrelevant and I will put you in your goddamn place of “mind your own fucking business”. ☺️ And even if you are fucking me or are even a family member I’ll still tell you where to shove that annoying opinion of yours. I’m managing my life perfectly well and you should learn to do the same 👀

indivision - Being able to read people's toxic judgments like that is an important life skill. I'd find someone devaluing the way I choose to spend my free time incredibly obnoxious; games are self care, a release, and people who know nothing about you trying to say you ought to change are pure poison.
4 years ago
MelMell​(dom female) - It’s a life skill I learned a long time ago. It helps that I honestly don’t care about what people think. But I’m also not letting them put down what I like doing. Everyone likes different things and you should respect what other’s like. And usually people that are that toxic don’t like it when you use the same argument on them. So I’ve started using the same argument back 😈 no one told them to mess around with someone who is very very petty.
4 years ago
indivision - People who find a shared frame of reference impossible are hypocrites and quite often personality disordered. I've learned the hard way but I wouldn't trade away the understanding I gained.
4 years ago
MelMell​(dom female) - Their disorder is normally called “following what society thinks is best like a little sheep”. They are taught that being social and spending all your time with your somewhat toxic and idiotic friend is fun. That getting drunk and waking up with a hangover is fun. That smoking weed is cool and if you don’t do it you are boring. They aren’t taught to do what they truly enjoy and gives them freedom. I’m grateful I don’t have that disorder. I’ve always followed my own beat and have never caved under peer pressure and never will. Peer pressure honestly puts me to sleep or mentally pick my nose for all the attention I give to it.
4 years ago
indivision - Exactly, unthinking conformity is wretched. I respect extroverts and sensing types need the group and there's a lot they get out of it, but the intolerance for those who don't need that is incredibly irritating.
4 years ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Boom!!!!!!!
4 years ago
indivision - I also find these people bookend their judgments with the phrase, "I just don't understand why you..." Whilst never actually acknowledging they lack insight and therefore ought to avoid drawing a conclusion.
4 years ago
Johnny slave sub​(sub male){I'd most w} - In a sense, such people are dreaming themselves as being the pied piper, wanting to lead others by their own tune or ways while disregarding the reality that we all follow the piper within us. We all are entitled to our individual ways of living our lives. That includes how we spend or share our free times. Giving such people a taste of their own medicine is a grand tactic. Giving unto them the same argument back! Such people foolishly criticize the actions of others and in doing so, show their ignorance of neglecting to understand that we are all entitled to the freedom to live life in a way that makes us happy.
Lazy? No way. See it this way...those who know you, know you aren't. Most important is that you know you aren't. Ignore any possible explanations to idiots who haven't even a clue...in how to respect the you...you are. 😊
4 years ago

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