What are you looking for? I think that's the #1 question I get asked. To me, there's no cookie cutter mold that spits out my ideal s-type. Truth is, I don't know exactly what type is. I have a general idea, and enough experience to put me in the ball park. However, I find that I'm constantly learning and with each new experience I learn a little more. Sometimes I learn about things I like, other times I learn about things I thought I would like but find out I don't. It's one thing to build something up in your head and then when you experience it, it's nothing like you thought it would be. Talk about disappointing.
It's the little things and the unexpected things that surprise and excite me. Whether it's the way a s-type whimpers or moans, or the attention to detail she might pick up on. There are tons of little things that add up to bigger things, and those bigger things tend to add to a fuller more enjoyable dynamic.
Recently, I've found that I tend to get a laundry list of kinks and interests from potentials before I've even really spoken to them at length about anything. "Hello," they write and then BOOM! Information dump. All the things they will absolutely not do, followed by a list of things they require like cuddling, intimacy, and for me to subscribe to their Premium Snap and Onlyfans.
Seriously, I'm not talking limits here. It's usually various things you would bring up on a Vanilla first date."I don't do this because I heard it's gross," or "I don't do that because I had a friend try it and they didn't like it." To me that sort of removes an element of exploration.I do know that's not what I'm looking for. I'm looking for a sense of adventure and discovery. Someone to be the kinky Sacagawea to my Lewis and Clark.
Besides, who want's to read a book they already know the beginning, middle, and end of. To know how everything will go. I suppose there's a level of control in that. I guess that's absolute control. I'd never knock anyone for liking anything, because that's their journey, and I think that's something that get's overlooked alot. We are all on a journey, and there are some folks better suited to joining us on our journey than others.
I'm looking for that feeling you get when you know you got it right. When you look your potential over, and you know there's real potential as opposed to just going through the motions. I'm a Dom, you're a sub. That's all you need right? The labels?
I'm not looking for abrasive types, drama, or to try and force a square peg into a round hole. However, the Sadist in me would love to watch others try. Big dicks, small holes works too.
What am I looking for? I'm looking for the right experience. I'm looking for what feels right. Finding that is not easy, and requires a bit of trial and error. So, while I'm looking I'll settle for testing out some of the wrong things too.
