I wanted to explain a little more about mind fucks. Yes, I broke my slave down and made him so confused he didn't know what to do, but after, which I didn't mention in the post is, that he knew after what I had done and why.
Submissives like everyone, get stressed out in their everyday lives. By breaking them down and then taking care of them after, cuddles lots of love and time together, they learn they don't have to stress when they are mine. I will let them be carefree, fun loving, enjoying life submissives. I'm there to listen to their problems and help them through them. And when they need a break and to escape reality, I take them to subspace.
Mind fucks is a way to de-stress the mind. To reset it. And it's fun.
The mind fuck I wrote about is only one way to do a mind fuck. There are lots of different types of mind fucks. There's also Fear play. Where the Dom makes you think or believe one thing like they are going to cut you, or something that you are really scared of, then they do something else. Something totally different like tickle you.
It comes down to making a submissive believe one thing is going to happen and then do something different. That's the basics of a mind fuck. This confuses the mind, causing it to
But I want to be very clear, my slave enjoyed it, he loved it. And there's a difference between a mind Fuck and abuse. Mind fucks are something the dominant should discuss with their partner after it's over too explain what just happened. They have the responsibility to make sure the submissive is put back together after it's over. If they don't do those two things, it's abuse.
After care is SO important! And even MORE so when you do a mind fuck because with a mind fuck you are breaking them, tarring them down. YOU HAVE to build them back up and comfort them. Make them feel loved! Reassure them that you will always be there. Without the after care, you will loose trust, respect and the connection that could have been made stronger by doing the mind fucked, and you would have wasted a valuable opportunity to grow closer with your submissive.
If you do not know how to properly take care of your submissive after doing ANYTHING to them, do NOT do it to them!
Do NOT do mind fucks if you do not know your sub very well or not for long! This is something I will stress over and over again. DON'T fucking do something if you don't know what you are getting into! And if you think you do know, make sure you have someone there that is experienced in what ever it is you are going to try for the first time.
I have never done anything dangerous alone for the first time. Mentors are necessary if you want to be a good or even great dominant. Having mentors is not taking away your power or there to undermine you. They are there to help you learn, grown and to support you when you need it as a Dominant.
So please remember Mentors and After care are VERY important!
If anyone has any further questions, please reach out and email me.
AK~
(This is a photo of my pet and I doing after care at PE
in SF during 2008 after a very intense scene we did).
