I get asked a lot about how I picked my scene name, AphroditesKiss, so here is the history of how I picked it and why.
I have always known the BDSM Lifestyle existed since I was ten years old and saw, "Exit to Eden", I just wasn't sure how to find it. When I saw the movie at such a young age, I knew then I would be a Domme someday. But it wasn't until years later that I actually would find the lifestyle by tripping over a BDSM website while looking for good porn. Hot Damn, I found it!
I started reading everything. The blogs, the magazine, the forums and chatting in the chat room with everyone. I googled and searched things to understand more about things I have never heard about before. I asked so many questions, and I asked them to multiple people to get different perspectives. Everything I read and learned just confirmed what I already knew, I am dominant.
Time came to pick my scene name so I could start moving forward with things. Knowing I wanted to be addressed as Goddess by my future submissives, I researched all the different Goddesses in a few different cultures. Aphrodite was the first to catch my eye. I have always felt a deep connection with her, but wanting to make sure I picked the one that matched my personality and who I am as a dominant, I kept looking. Sure enough after two weeks, I had to circle back to Aphrodite. I have always embodied her essence. Her sexuality, loving and caring nature. I have her wicked tempter with the capability to hold a grudge. And I have the ability to draw people to me and make them fall in love with me without even trying. I tried Aphrodite, but of course the name was taken. When I really thought about it, I wanted to change it or add to it because I was more than just her, I am me as well. I love to kiss and bite, and I love being kissed. So, Kiss was added to the name.
Next I took my time getting to know people that have been in the lifestyle for more than 20 years, and found mentors to teach me everything I wanted to know and learn. I had those that were experienced in impact play, single tails, flogging, enigmas and anal play, needles, and domination in general. Through theses friendships, and mentor-ships, I developed my domination skills. I then dove deeper into high protocol through the Gorean lifestyle. Even though they believe all women to be under or submissive to men, I do not adhere to their beliefs, but I did take a lot from their protocols and turned them into mine. I worked on self training with experienced submissives privately in person and online. I developed a code for myself. I set boundaries I never want to cross, morals I never want to brake, and standards for the people I will allow into my life. I developed my style of domination and protocols.
You see, to me, being a Goddess is more than being worshiped, adored and serviced. I have a duty to my submissives to help them become the best person they can be. The best human for themselves before ever considering what they can do for me. If they do not know who they are, what they want in life or in the lifestyle, or don't know where they want to go in life; if they don't know what morals they should have and abide by, then how could they ever give themselves to another. Training is a long processes. The first part being self-discovery. This part allows both the sub and myself to get to know each other on a deeper level than just D/s. I want to know your most inner thoughts, hopes and dreams. I want to know what makes you tick, what makes you sad, what makes you angry and what makes you laugh. And you do not want the same from me, then I will discover quickly we are not a good match.
Play time comes later. Yes, I start with a tasting. This normally happens still in the beginning stages of getting to know each other, maybe after I put you under consideration. Learning your body at the same time I am learning your mind is most helpful. Body language is key to understanding each other. But I'm getting off topic.
That is how I picked my name and why. I also added a bit about my domination style. But just the tip. 😉 LOL Hopefully this sheds some light for some of you.
Me at the Power Exchange in SF, CA 2007
