Just a few thoughts feel free to add more !
1. Find out your needs and your desires. Only you can tell what makes you feel Dominated and little. While there are general method for littles, since each little is unique, the Daddy Dom needs to know about your needs, desires and wants and only you can tell him that.
2. When you are hurt and sad then tell him directly. Don’t say that you are fine. Don’t think that he will just know. When your Daddy Dom has done something that hurt you then say ” I feel hurt by ________ Daddy”. ” I am feeling ________ Daddy ”
3. If you want him to be more rough and punish you without you asking then use non verbal signals for example, if you want to be overpowered then you both can discuss a signal. It can be throwing a pillow at his face that turns into game.
4. If you are having trouble communicating then tell him that. Say that you are feeling shy and don’t know how to talk about it.
5. It is not topping from bottom to ask for what you need. But always ask respectfully so that both of your power exchange dynamic stays strong. The reasons for this is that it makes you feel submissive while asking him for things you want. It never questions his authority. Daddy Doms love to take care of their litre. Just ask what you want. Use journal in case you are shy.
6. Don’t lose respect for your Daddy Dom if he feels down. Your Daddy Dom may have some depression or anxiety. If he has then don’t lost respect for him. Don’t start to see him as week.
7. Don’t think that your Daddy Dom knows it all. Telling him and showing him new things does not makes him a submissive and you a Dominant. It all depends on your view.
8. When he is not giving you attention and forgotting his promise then let him know. If you enjoy testing him then discuss it with him together. Always discuss with respect so that you can stay in your submissive headspace.
9. Respect his limits and boundaries. Sometime he may use safe word. Yes Daddy Doms can use safe word too. Give him after care when he needs it. He will give you after care too. There are some Daddy Doms who love their littles so much that they feel afraid to punish her and be rough with her. If your Daddy Dom is feeling like that then discuss it with him. Again use respect so that you can stay in your submissive headspace.
10. Don’t except him to be in control of his emotions always. Sometime he maybe exhausted. He may say something mean. If he says that then instead of pulling back and yelling. Say to him. ” That hurt me Daddy”
Safety rules.
1. If you feel that the DDlG relationship is abusive and emotionally manipulative then leave that relationship. Always trust your gut feelings.
