How to take skills learned online to real life and dealing with a bratty personality

I hope this is helpful.
Very helpful. Thank you so much. Not a 24/7 dynamic so more specifically for scenes. I have definitely noticed that when I give her a warning/an if you do a I will do b sort o ...

Mon May 12, 2025 3:41 am • 5 Replies • 216 Views

Do men really like women?

What kind of question is this? I was reading some of the debate and was lost. It looks like a debate as to whether or not men and women can do certain jobs or who contributes to society?

I interpr ...

Sun May 11, 2025 6:35 am • 85 Replies • 3362 Views

BDSM Movie recommendations?

Bound (Jennifer Tilly and Gina ?)
Babygirl (I was not a fan, but its meh)
Secretary (one of my favorites)
Quills (excellent fill with Geoffrey Rush and Kate Winslet)
Blue Velvet
Hellraiser films ...

Sun May 11, 2025 6:27 am • 2 Replies • 104 Views

How to take skills learned online to real life and dealing with a bratty personality

This is tricky and requires a clearly written out contract that specifically states expectations and consequences. The timing of bratting is also important to know and how is she bratting.
- is it p ...

Sun May 11, 2025 6:17 am • 5 Replies • 216 Views

Play with Emotional Attachment and without

The first sub I had was married and so was I. We were happy with our vanilla spouses. We just wanted to have our kink. It was a drama-free relationship. The rl sex when we were together, and the on ...

Wed May 07, 2025 9:07 pm • 9 Replies • 312 Views

Play with Emotional Attachment and without

Topeka,

I think that it is individual and how we attach. I have an "attachment" to some of my things. My teddy bear, a cutting board, a necklace, etc because there is meaning and sentimental value ...

Wed May 07, 2025 3:32 pm • 9 Replies • 312 Views

Is bdsm a high IQ game?

"With great power comes great responsibility" - Uncle Ben...to Spiderman.

One of my favorite quotes and I say it all the time.

Anyway, it isnt just about the Dom have emotional intelligence, ...

Wed May 07, 2025 4:31 am • 8 Replies • 393 Views

Play with Emotional Attachment and without

My husband and I were recently, as in today, talking about emotional attachment in bdsm and D/s dynamics. He worried that I get hurt easily, which, I can because I do form attachments. These attachmen ...

Wed May 07, 2025 1:20 am • 9 Replies • 312 Views

Why do you choose to submit?

Good question. Sometimes I ask myself that very question. Why put up with some of the drama and the shit?

Part of it is because it is in my nature. I do not always like to be in charge or to lead. ...

Tue May 06, 2025 11:22 pm • 7 Replies • 396 Views

Is bdsm a high IQ game?

I do not think it has to do with IQ. I think it has to do with emotional intelligence, willingness to display humility, and desire to grow. This is true in vanilla and BDSM dynamics. I have known plen ...

Mon May 05, 2025 11:59 pm • 8 Replies • 393 Views