Do men really like women?

Do men really like women?

SimpforTomiokaSan​(switch female) • Apr 24, 2025

I saw a Tik tok recently that said that straight men are attracted to women but don’t really like them. I’ll repeat. Straight men are attracted to women, but don’t really like them, as people. What do ya’ll think about this? I’m sorta finding it to be true. What are your thoughts on this matter? Thank you in advance!

seventhsoul​(sub female) • Apr 24, 2025

I don’t think it’s so much the case of not liking women as it is not being able to handle the feelings and emotions that they begin to feel when they find someone they DO like.

SimpforTomiokaSan​(switch female) • Apr 24, 2025

Oh, that’s a good one. A lot of people don’t know how to handle big emotions right? Thank you for your insight!

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Apr 24, 2025

Some men have a long ass history of not liking women.

Yes, they like to fuck them, but really women scare the hell out of men.

From bleeding once a month, to being smarter than men, to being more organized than men, and the ability of giving birth, women have have a huge advantage of men. And other than needing semen from us, women really don't need us.

That is why you see the suppression of women by men. Keeping them paid low, keeping them out of power from political, religious and business situations.

So while not seeing the tiktok, I would say yes, on the most part men do not like women.

JaredMayer​(dom male) • Apr 24, 2025

Given the amount of toxic masculinity in our culture (by which I mean western European derived) I can see how someone would come to that conclusion. I think it is true for a lot of men, who are far too concerned with how other men judge them to appreciate women as anything other than another piece in their status game.

However, I don't think it's true for even a majority of men, even if some of them will be so caught up in bullshit that they might act like it sometimes.

seventhsoul might also be on to something. Being raised a man in our culture seems to mean being taught that the only emotion you're allowed to fully express is anger and any other emotions need to be suppressed and bottled up until they become anger. You're expected to "be strong" and "make hard choices", which is code for suppressing empathy. Having and expressing emotions other than anger is seen as "unmanly", and our culture has made men so insecure that they are often desperate to perform "manliness", part of which is of course objectifying women because, again, toxic masculinity.

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female)​{Claimed } • Apr 24, 2025

First, it’s worth noting that TikTok, while often insightful and validating for many, is not always the most reliable or nuanced source of information, especially for complex social issues like gender dynamics and relationships. Its short-form content often relies on bold, sweeping generalizations to spark engagement, and that can blur the line between pattern recognition and oversimplification.

The statement that “straight men are attracted to women but don’t really like them” taps into a very real frustration many women feel, particularly when emotional labor, respect, and genuine connection seem to be missing from some relationships. But to say this is true of men as a whole is a broad generalization, and it risks flattening a deeply nuanced conversation.

What we’re often seeing is the impact of generations of societal conditioning. Many men have been socialized to:

   Prioritize stoicism over vulnerability

   View relationships as status or utility rather than connection

   Seek validation through conquest or performance rather than intimacy

This doesn’t mean they don’t like women…it often means they haven’t been taught how to build reciprocal emotional intimacy or even recognize it. They’ve been fed messages about control, independence, and traditional roles that don’t necessarily foster deep, respectful companionship.

So while some men may behave in ways that feel dismissive, selfish, or emotionally disconnected, it’s often a symptom of internal conflict rather than outright disdain. Many do care deeply…they just might lack the tools, language, or emotional literacy to show it in ways that feel meaningful to their partners.

Ultimately, we need to move toward compassionate accountability: holding people (and systems) responsible while also recognizing the deeper social roots at play. Dismissing all straight men as incapable of liking women not only overlooks the good ones…it also misses the opportunity to challenge and reshape what masculinity and connection can look like.

Thanks for raising such a thoughtful question…it’s one a lot of people are quietly grappling with.

House Talion​(dom male) • Apr 24, 2025

I like women that like non-sexusl stuff I like to do while fully clothed

seventhsoul​(sub female) • Apr 24, 2025

If anyone is interested in continuing this conversation in real time, we could always take it to a chat room.

Might be difficult based on time zones but if you want to share your availability, it could possibly work.

CottageGardenGal​(masochist female) • Apr 24, 2025

Men don't hate women its more like society and past traumatic things can effect a person later in life as well.
Blame society for not teaching it know one to blame only society period!!! But this can also happen to women also not just men can happen to both anyone.

It's because empathy is not taught early in life, for some have been taught in some countries they teach it early in school.
If empathy isn't taught to men early in life, they may struggle with understanding and sharing the emotions of others, leading to potential challenges in relationships and social interactions. This can manifest as difficulty in connecting with others, resolving conflicts, and fostering positive change.



Many guys do want women the problem is society and past trauma can lead not to hate but not liking the world they live in and life but they try to fight cure by taking out other things but it does not help. Dearly any man does want women they just not happy with themselves so they need validation they want motherly touch feeling affection they don't really want to hurt anyone they can't be with someone in a full on relationship they could only have a live in or just be friends they don't want to put anger on anyone but still care. But their behavior can be dangerous if they are using it sexually if they are only using someone for their own needs that is not love does really help ether it makes the good person walk away they could only do what they could. Know wants to hurt anyone its just some times people have to separate but it can take years and time or the right person to tell the person or they just go on in life like this or they find ways not to get in a relationship but they still want some part of it.

Many good women fall to be with them but when the guy gets mad for them trying to help them even if she is trying to speak up its her love Lagrange because they are ignoring her if they can't be willing to change this why good people leave. Women have to feel calm, safe and protected before she can trust a guy. Women like growth and a person with responsibility. Men need that too. But the men are the foundation of the family and they have to be willing to Master them self in healing those past traumas and learn to be love.

Without communication there is no relationship. Without respect there is no love. Without trust there's no reason to continue.

Women need to be nurturing and loving to men but they lean on a man to look up to them but they need a man who is going to lead them right and help them as they will. But we are human just be a good human and treat her like a human she can never be your mother but she will nurture you if you treat her right be the same reflection you want in return. Women are not here to serve they are here to be with you in team work you both serve each other with bond. One cannot do it alone, one person does not have a say, both have a say. Just they not willing to change time to exit best not to tell them your leaving cause they will trap you so good to have an exit plan do not stay cause you feel could make it work or just cause you fear being alone. Best to get out while you can for your own health & safety. If you stay its going be hard for the right person to find you.

I have been with a few narcissists but I feel it was not their fault - some just had a bad experience in life - yes they may get selfish because its the only way of protection but it can be hard for one to want to heal - they have to heal first for themselves - they have to admit things and talk about the past and cut cords and make peace and let go cause really the past is not your present who you are now but its your choice what you want to be in this time. I have seen many turn in to bad behavior do to even having a bad past spouse they told him to get rid of his dog and cat and their life was controlled they ruined them would let them have a say in anything that was wrong. But when you try to help someone who does want to be helped can be hard that you do what you can have to cut ties with the best in life cause they have to do this for them self no one wants to leave but they can't be around the behavour a but they have to because they want you to heal for yourself they need to move on. People love you even if they leave good person who tried to help you but that ones up to them.

Some just have some childhood trauma that needs to be healed that they grow up in house with anger and abuse, they may get some love but not the right kind, they got yelled at, were told that they were not manly enough, they have a family member that is narcissistic so it rubs on them but the family still has anger around them. In the past I sorta some how attract the ones that need help but I can not fix anyone they have to be willing to do it for themselves but being emphatic I try to help but when you try you only do what you can.

I had a guy tell me I feel this way when he was drinking said he hated women but did want long term could only do like live in thing still be with them I got that he did not hate women its was more anger that his mother did to him she loved him but only when she felt like it. He got slapped a lot growing up over little things that was not wrong other times was treated fairly.

This person was a Dom but he was nice at times but at times nightmares of the past would bother them they wanted a mommy like person to fill that gab they wanted me to breast feed them and give them affection and so on I felt this was going to help them this kind of thing only help for short while. It was not his fault his father seemed to still treat him bad even in when he got older. Kind of behavior you grow up with and the people you hang around they still do this it can affect your nervous system so trying to cope with that why some lead to having a sex addiction and closet drinking they need a way to sooth they are good at hiding it but true colors only show later.

Know one's perfect but just admit it do things you can do work on things not really that hard. This life can be misunderstanding but things have to change for things to change in the present. But you have to heal past trauma cause it can show up even in the present yes its sad but its something that has to be done ether way. know one lives perfect life.

They need more stress rehab centers and retreats. They need one on one ones that just don't write down say here's your meds they need methods and things people are going to support them through it all , Art therapy way to express through feelings. Silence retreats, but allow you to read and journal. Medically should be free for all. They do their own therapy for them self find something that healthy not harmful to the body and life. Meditaiton may not work for all zoning out in nature find what works.

Art can be expressed with music dancing , painting , sculpting the body, but in a healthy way.


They have to let go of toxic past , family , bad habits. Cause to keep a good person you have to be willing to heal and grow but it starts with them wanting to. They not willing to change, they are best being alone.

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Steellover​(sub male) • Apr 24, 2025

I don't think it's fair to say that "All" men like or dislike anything. The only thing all men have in common is that all men are different. I think the vast majority of men do long for some form of female companionship, even gay men who lack the physical longing for them.
However I do believe there is certainly a deepening undercurrent of misogyny that is becoming more prevelant in our culture, for certain reasons I won't get into since it's too political. To briefly summarize, these are men who want women "in their place" and don't want to respect them as equals. Not all men feel like this though.

I do think sweetlydepraved makes some very good points about how society conditions men to be stoic, emotionally solid and are not allowed to express grief or fear, lest they be judged "unmanly." As a guy, I get this from both sexes- women who seem to want their men to be cool, stoic and unmoved by negative emotions (other than joy, or anger), and from men who think guys who openly show fear or cry at the drop of a hat are "pussies." So as a result, us guys do try to repress these emotions, at least publicly (I know I do anyway.) This does not, however, mean that men judge women negatively for showing emotion, or that we don't like it when they do.