Local kink events and their differences to online spaces

I've tried to find in-person events in my town, but things are pretty underground here and I haven't had much luck. There was a small group that was active a while ago (pre-2020) that I reached out t ...

Sun Apr 13, 2025 10:24 pm • 8 Replies • 4058 Views

Re: Are you submissive or are you just lazy

I see a lot of subs who's whole selling point is that they are nothing but a pile of garbage who can be used for sex and humiliation.
Wow, how enthralling.
There is nothing special, nothing of sign ...

Sun Apr 13, 2025 2:08 am • 33 Replies • 13227 Views

Cheating kink

I've talked about this before on forums, blog posts, etc.

The cuckolding dynamic has it's positives. It allows the female partner to experiment, and to seek variety, and thus be less likely to be ...

Fri Apr 11, 2025 2:47 am • 5 Replies • 3462 Views

Places to find BDSM/AltLifestyle roommates?

DEFINITELY no to craigslist- for ANYTHING- these days. Your chances of getting scammed, ripped off or fleeced far outweigh your chances of finding a legitimate deal on that site these days. And that ...

Sun Apr 06, 2025 9:58 pm • 4 Replies • 1343 Views

question about negotiating a scene

That makes sense. After all, if I am being dominated during a scene, then I want to be totally surrendered to her whims; that's part of the point.

Sat Apr 05, 2025 9:47 pm • 7 Replies • 3721 Views

question about negotiating a scene

I was just wondering, when negotiating a scene, when is it considered setting boundaries, or coming up with an idea for a play scene, and when is it considered "Topping from the bottom?"
It seems lik ...

Sat Apr 05, 2025 8:38 am • 7 Replies • 3721 Views

Tattoos

I like 'em but only up to a point. A few tattoos give a girl a "Bad girl" look which drives me absolutely wild. Too many though, to the point where they just cover every inch of skin, and it's kind ...

Sat Apr 05, 2025 3:48 am • 30 Replies • 9242 Views

Submission: is it someone's choice or their nature?

I think all of us are a product of how we are raised, and the experiences that have shaped us as we grow. I think both have come into play with me, and made me heavily lean submissive when it comes t ...

Sat Apr 05, 2025 2:43 am • 21 Replies • 9588 Views

d/s deffinitions

It is hard, and at least, takes practice, to be a good sub. Practice, trust, and courage- and finding that person to trust so you can put yourself in both a physically and emotionally compromising po ...

Mon Mar 31, 2025 6:25 am • 5 Replies • 1110 Views

Being Naked

What Blondie said about being in your dominants control, about baring your body and soul- total surrender and trust, well, that is what I have been chasing all my life- that kind of connection.

Sun Mar 30, 2025 3:18 am • 22 Replies • 5409 Views