Follow your gut instinct, not your pleasure center...

I'm in basic agreement with Lisa. Your counselor/therapist should get to weigh in on this. My guess is that as you respond to your therapy, and feel better about yourself, the continuing of hars ...

Thu Apr 26, 2018 2:57 am • 8 Replies • 3953 Views

An Alternate Possibility?

Hi Kitty,
Most fascinating post, and great background for your question.

The whole idea of being a switch is a little hard for a Dom-only guy, but I can sympathize a lot with you bein ...

Mon Apr 23, 2018 7:33 pm • 5 Replies • 3629 Views

That is a Rule?

It is always worth a smile to see how many different ways there are to approach getting into a kinky life.. Now the Doctor was raised that mentors were not allowed to have sex with their mentees, w ...

Mon Apr 16, 2018 3:58 pm • 7 Replies • 4202 Views

It is just Simple Play ? Begging to differ.

I've had several online only subbies--some well over a year or more. In my experience, online relationships regularly do involve real emotions, real attachments , real arousal and powerful connect ...

Mon Apr 16, 2018 4:36 am • 19 Replies • 16063 Views

Silence Can be Used as a Weapon

Hi traveling girl--
It is not that unusual for those in online relationships ( in real life, too) to either use or experience silence as a punishment, or as a needle, or maybe to send the message ...

Sun Apr 15, 2018 10:27 pm • 5 Replies • 4911 Views

Many Flavors of Beers....

....many feelings about contracts.

Perhaps worth noting is that some in our community thirst for, thrive on, protocols, rules and STRUCTURE. For those folks, contracts seem to fill a void, might ...

Sat Apr 14, 2018 12:23 am • 21 Replies • 16930 Views

Punishment

You might consider a set period of Time Out, if you are physically with him...or Imposed Silence, if you are not in physical contact. Time Out--standing in a corner with his back to you, say for 30 ...

Tue Apr 10, 2018 6:02 pm • 17 Replies • 17712 Views

Play

Online D/s Play has a bad rep, probably because there are so many trying it and finding it wanting, perhaps without the necessary imagination... As to the "While you are apart" piece of the question ...

Mon Apr 09, 2018 5:24 pm • 3 Replies • 3918 Views

Problems with the Personals

Damn, Fire--you are right --hiding down in the corner is a Report User Button.... So the question becomes-- does the site actually do anything when it gets pushed?

Anyone in management following th ...

Mon Dec 18, 2017 1:55 am • 30 Replies • 20818 Views

Problems with the Personals

Excellent thread. Perhaps the owners/designers/moderators of this site will begin including a "Report User" button, so our valued female members won't feel the need to hide out and hope the creeps ...

Mon Dec 18, 2017 1:41 am • 30 Replies • 20818 Views