subs don't need "training", Doms do.

Ok I get what you're saying there, but I see military structure as an imposed order as is much of our society.
For instance we have police that enforce laws and we have to obey or risk fine or impri ...

Sat May 20, 2017 6:08 am • 29 Replies • 44237 Views

Intonation

Something else that is always problematic in any form of text based communication is the issue that what is said has no intonation. Verbally you express so much simply by how you say certain words. A ...

Sat May 20, 2017 5:16 am • 8 Replies • 10312 Views

subs don't need "training", Doms do.

Wonderful post, well said!
I would agree with pretty much everything you've written but I do have a couple of comments.
I see the Dom/sub orientation much like gay/straight, that is its something ...

Sat May 20, 2017 5:05 am • 29 Replies • 44237 Views

A Word Too Far

A great question with no easy answer!
Well of course there are answers but I think here the main issue is context. A good example is "fat", over the years I have known many big girls and some were f ...

Thu May 18, 2017 8:29 am • 8 Replies • 10312 Views

Non sexual bdsm

A lot of attention is focused on the sexual aspects of bdsm both here and in many other forums but I am curious to know how widespread the non sexual aspects of this are among the cage members.
From ...

Thu May 18, 2017 8:02 am • 6 Replies • 10550 Views

Porn, Privacy, & The Government

One simple step you can take, especially for non technical folk is to start using the Opera browser.
It includes an in built VPN which hides what you do online from your internet company and anyone ...

Mon Mar 13, 2017 11:54 am • 10 Replies • 15246 Views

Brat sub

I would definitely concur with Evangeline's advice, your bratty sub is manipulating you. That said some folks enjoy this type of play and it may be what she's used to. Denying her attention will most ...

Tue Oct 04, 2016 8:25 am • 12 Replies • 33237 Views

Solo BDSM

This is quite a big area actually, as mentioned above without details its hard to know where to start!
The idea of set tasks, i.e. a play session that includes specific things to complete is quite co ...

Tue Oct 04, 2016 6:42 am • 7 Replies • 12945 Views

How To Find The Right Sub For You

I am always nervous about "How to" lists, they can often over simplify what is a really complex issue. The article certainly raises some good, common sense points but misses one of the most important ...

Wed Sep 14, 2016 4:10 am • 9 Replies • 11287 Views

The Vetting Process

Yeah some of the overtly stupid ideas I have seen in forums posted as supposedly legitimate self bondage ideas horrify me! If naive newbie subs took them seriously and tried them out they could be in ...

Mon May 16, 2016 3:44 am • 5 Replies • 14077 Views