subs don't need "training", Doms do.

Wonderful post, well said!
I would agree with pretty much everything you've written but I do have a couple of comments.
I see the Dom/sub orientation much like gay/straight, that is its something ...

Sat May 20, 2017 5:05 am • 29 Replies • 35618 Views

A Word Too Far

A great question with no easy answer!
Well of course there are answers but I think here the main issue is context. A good example is "fat", over the years I have known many big girls and some were f ...

Thu May 18, 2017 8:29 am • 8 Replies • 8326 Views

Non sexual bdsm

A lot of attention is focused on the sexual aspects of bdsm both here and in many other forums but I am curious to know how widespread the non sexual aspects of this are among the cage members.
From ...

Thu May 18, 2017 8:02 am • 6 Replies • 8421 Views

Porn, Privacy, & The Government

One simple step you can take, especially for non technical folk is to start using the Opera browser.
It includes an in built VPN which hides what you do online from your internet company and anyone ...

Mon Mar 13, 2017 11:54 am • 10 Replies • 12158 Views

Brat sub

I would definitely concur with Evangeline's advice, your bratty sub is manipulating you. That said some folks enjoy this type of play and it may be what she's used to. Denying her attention will most ...

Tue Oct 04, 2016 8:25 am • 12 Replies • 29581 Views

Solo BDSM

This is quite a big area actually, as mentioned above without details its hard to know where to start!
The idea of set tasks, i.e. a play session that includes specific things to complete is quite co ...

Tue Oct 04, 2016 6:42 am • 7 Replies • 10734 Views

How To Find The Right Sub For You

I am always nervous about "How to" lists, they can often over simplify what is a really complex issue. The article certainly raises some good, common sense points but misses one of the most important ...

Wed Sep 14, 2016 4:10 am • 9 Replies • 9251 Views

The Vetting Process

Yeah some of the overtly stupid ideas I have seen in forums posted as supposedly legitimate self bondage ideas horrify me! If naive newbie subs took them seriously and tried them out they could be in ...

Mon May 16, 2016 3:44 am • 5 Replies • 11909 Views

The Vetting Process

This is a great topic, I agree 100% about that loss of personal referencing. I was the same in my formative time, mostly getting to know people through word of mouth, at munches etc whereas now with s ...

Sun May 15, 2016 4:51 am • 5 Replies • 11909 Views

Trying It On Yourself

I would have to agree that for the most part while you can test an item you cannot ever really simulate full use and that is certainly no replacement anyway for the care and attention during play. Of ...

Fri May 13, 2016 6:03 am • 10 Replies • 11964 Views