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Edging vs Ruined Orgasm

Think of it like going out for ice cream. Edging is constantly tasting free samples but never actually getting to eat a full satisfying bite.

A ruined orgasm is like getting a full cup and eating ...

Tue Jan 06, 2026 1:19 pm • 9 Replies • 1240 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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Edging vs Ruined Orgasm

I'm completely new to all this, just asking a question.

Try to worry less about whether your interest and actions are normal, and focus on your morals and principles. And yes consent is paramount. That said, with your partner, go a bit further and focus on ...

Tue Jan 06, 2026 2:26 am • 15 Replies • 2046 Views

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SubStanChill

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Absolute Beginners

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I'm completely new to all this, just asking a question.

A question

Best way I can describe it when it feels the best is it’s like a warm embrace and an inviting kiss. But the sensation is also unique in that it works like the opposite of dropping a stone in a pool. ...

Mon Jan 05, 2026 9:47 pm • 9 Replies • 1323 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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A question

Can You Truly Call Yourself Obedient

Apologies, but I think there is an important distinction from being “obedient” and being “submissive”.

I do not think you can at all call yourself obedient if your actions go against your domme/do ...

Tue Nov 25, 2025 6:04 am • 20 Replies • 3543 Views

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SubStanChill

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Femdom

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Can You Truly Call Yourself Obedient

Can't seem to meet a dominant women

I second what Steellover said. For the long term, focus on building a relationship in which the dynamic can comfortably find a place. Don’t start the dynamic, expecting it to blossom into a relations ...

Thu Nov 20, 2025 6:56 am • 37 Replies • 5812 Views

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SubStanChill

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Femdom

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Can't seem to meet a dominant women

I found a woman who was naturally dominant, but vanilla and had never considered BDSM. Slowly but surely as trust was built we steadily introduced more BDSM aspects.

Wed Nov 19, 2025 1:59 am • 37 Replies • 5812 Views

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SubStanChill

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Femdom

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Can't seem to meet a dominant women

Why do some submissives enjoy a rough and sloppy facefuck?

I think the pressure, the feeling of force both from her hand pressing my head and her forcing her genitals, makes it feel more real. More objectified. That my domme is just taking things into her own ...

Mon Nov 17, 2025 3:48 pm • 52 Replies • 20173 Views

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SubStanChill

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Fetish

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Why do some submissives enjoy a rough and sloppy facefuck?

Cum play

Not too much to add to what’s already been said. The only thing that I think is worth remembering is to not feel guilty about shutting that door, especially if you’re more than willing to open and ex ...

Mon Nov 17, 2025 7:17 am • 7 Replies • 1227 Views

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SubStanChill

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Absolute Beginners

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Cum play

Open dynamics

That 12 hours with someone else on one of your few days off is big. It’s something like that where it seems less like you have an open relationship and more like he sees you as a casual hook up.
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Wed Oct 22, 2025 6:19 am • 15 Replies • 3217 Views

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SubStanChill

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Generally Speaking

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Open dynamics

Funny Thoughts in the Heat of the Moment

1. Oh No!!! I Do Not Like Thaaaahhhh… NVM… DON’T STOP!
2. Hey, I think she learned to thrust like that from me. Neat!

Sun Oct 19, 2025 12:45 am • 11 Replies • 1671 Views

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SubStanChill

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Just for Fun

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Funny Thoughts in the Heat of the Moment