The Vetting Process

This is a brilliant topic - thank you for starting it Darthlaurie!  It's a tricky thing, isn't it?  As someone who has been fairly active online on various platforms over the years, I've seen attempts ...

Sun May 15, 2016 1:10 pm • 5 Replies • 12861 Views

Male Dominants & Misogyny

@Sgt_J that's a provocative comment. I wonder if others agree. Thanks for chiming in!

Thu May 12, 2016 8:26 pm • 3 Replies • 5723 Views

Trying It On Yourself

It's hard to gauge the impact of your implements if you've never experienced what they can do, right?  But does that matter to you? Dominants, do you have a policy of testing your toys on yourself fir ...

Thu May 12, 2016 11:16 am • 10 Replies • 12983 Views

Is The BDSM Lifestyle 'Real'?

Thanks for your comment @MasterWitch - great distinctions and explanation of how you view it.  

Fri Apr 29, 2016 12:55 pm • 18 Replies • 22664 Views

So You're Going To Meet Someone New For A Bit Of Casual Play

Thanks for the thoughtful response!  I agree that getting angry or frustrated when things don't go their way is a massive red flag.  

And yeah, as thrilling as new experiences can be, hopefully non ...

Wed Apr 27, 2016 12:46 pm • 3 Replies • 6552 Views

Public Or Precious: Sharing Your Play In A Public Forum

How do you feel about public play with your partner?  Are you an exhibitionist?  Maybe you feed off the energy of a group?   Or is iyour play too precious, to private to share with others?

Mon Apr 25, 2016 2:34 pm • 1 Replies • 4271 Views

D/s & Co-Dependency

While discussing definitions of BDSM lifestyle in another thread, we touched on the intensity required to maintain a 24/7 D/s dynamic.  How do you keep mentally fit, remain autonomous, and not develop ...

Sun Apr 24, 2016 12:35 pm • 0 Replies • 4725 Views

Is The BDSM Lifestyle 'Real'?

Yeah Rod, I'd agree about the different definitions.  As far as actually living D/s 24/7, I imagine both you and your partner would have to be incredibly mentally fit to manage it without damaging you ...

Sun Apr 24, 2016 12:19 pm • 18 Replies • 22664 Views

Ideas to try to encourage my Wife to be more Domme

I just came across this article from Carasutra you may find interesting.  And surprising.

http://carasutra.co.uk/2016/04/how-do-you-get-your-partner-to-dominate-you/

Fri Apr 22, 2016 12:34 pm • 12 Replies • 43364 Views

Caged In By Stereotypes

So I just came across this article that focuses on stereotypes about what us kinky people like to wear:

https://kinkcraft.co/2016/03/bdsm-black-leather/?utm_campaign=coschedule&utm_source=twitt ...

Thu Apr 21, 2016 12:14 pm • 3 Replies • 5754 Views