Physical attraction

Thanks for putting this conversation out there PandaGirl!

I feel that how you look is part of your identity, and the narrative that looks don't matter is ridiculous. To want to see a picture is a n ...

Thu Jan 16, 2025 9:34 pm • 24 Replies • 4202 Views

Re: Petty

I know I could hide it. I could have encounters and not tell my husband. I’m not really into that.

I could also get a divorce. I don’t have the financial resources to do that. On top of that, ...

Sun Jan 12, 2025 11:58 am • 19 Replies • 3383 Views

Re: Conversing between the sexes

As a younger man I struggled to express what I wanted in both vanilla and BDSM contexts. (I have little issue expressing what I want now.)

Looking back, I believe it was a matter of low self worth. ...

Mon Mar 04, 2024 9:50 am • 12 Replies • 3343 Views

Not sure anymore.

The way that I think of it is that Dom and sub are categories, not a sum of who you are.

At some point I identified as a teen, at another as a guy in a band, at another as the best uncle in the wo ...

Sat Feb 17, 2024 1:15 am • 20 Replies • 3470 Views

Do You Copy & Paste?

I will read her entire profile and try to start a conversation with what resonated with me. I see it as normal human connection.

From my personal experience, sadly, the effort put in is not correla ...

Sat Feb 17, 2024 12:42 am • 63 Replies • 12612 Views

Feeling valued

I think that what the original poster was asking of Doms has been overlooked. If your sub came to you with these concerns - what would you do to make her feel seen, valued, and safe?

Thank you f ...

Thu Feb 01, 2024 11:25 pm • 10 Replies • 3071 Views

Feeling valued

Your question is "is it typical for a sub to feel not good enough?"

It might help to understand that emotion.

Why do you not feel good enough? Is that just how you feel all the time, or is it s ...

Thu Feb 01, 2024 9:00 pm • 10 Replies • 3071 Views