Writing vs phone vs chat

I’m much the same as you, @tallslenderguy.
I liken face-to-face as getting to know eachother from the outside in. Whereas writing I see as getting to know eachother from the inside out. Ideally I’d ...

Sat Jan 13, 2024 3:15 am • 13 Replies • 890 Views

The Importance of Patience in BDSM Dynamics

A recent shift in mindset has had me focusing more on the journey or the moment or the experience, rather than the outcome. I think in a way this has naturally created patience because I’m not steamro ...

Thu Jan 11, 2024 1:05 pm • 3 Replies • 420 Views

Calling All Collectors ?

Does glass jars count?

My sister and I laugh at each other because we have so many jars that ‘oooh will be so good for that “thing” some time in the future’ 🙄 lol.

I kind of fell into collecting ...

Mon Jan 08, 2024 2:00 am • 47 Replies • 2904 Views

What came first? The relationship or the BDSM?

For me personally, the vanilla aspects of life and the BDSM aspects aren’t compartmentalised. So it’s about simply getting to know each other as we are.
I need for it to all flow and grow naturally ...

Mon Jan 08, 2024 1:35 am • 10 Replies • 1042 Views

Jealousy in a Mono-Poly dynamic

I think a lot of how you cope with it depends on how he responds when you tell him that you’re experiencing these feelings. Kind of like a feedback loop. It’s easy to get stuck in.
So, my first ques ...

Mon Dec 25, 2023 12:49 pm • 6 Replies • 665 Views

Peoples cheek

Personally I’m always suspicious of Dominants who approach taken submissives. What are they seeking?
If they happen to banter in comments or chat, then decide to speak privately because they’ve devel ...

Mon Dec 25, 2023 3:08 am • 13 Replies • 856 Views

Disconnected 'profiles'

When someone says they’re an open book it always makes my literal mind laugh… you realise an open book only shows two pages, right? 🙃

Mon Dec 25, 2023 12:44 am • 20 Replies • 1707 Views

I need some advice

Obviously I don’t know the circumstances, however, the first thought that came to mind in reading this: if he’s considering giving up now, already… at the start… it makes me wonder how he will respond ...

Thu Dec 14, 2023 12:05 am • 19 Replies • 1569 Views

Should I stop and leave the community?

“I feel bad every time I just can't give what other people can without issue”

Also… comparison is one of the biggest killers of self-esteem. Learning to let go of the desire to torture ourselves w ...

Tue Dec 12, 2023 11:37 am • 12 Replies • 1296 Views

Should I stop and leave the community?

So often we carry a belief that we need to be “at our ideal/optimum” before we can begin working towards/deserve the life we want. ‘Love ourselves before we can love another,’ ‘have everything in plac ...

Tue Dec 12, 2023 10:41 am • 12 Replies • 1296 Views