Red flags

Ditto so many of the responses here.

To me, a marriage proposal after a "couple of days" of online chatting is not a red flag, it's a brick wall... or at least a stop sign. And i get it. i know h ...

Fri Aug 14, 2020 3:24 pm • 35 Replies • 12378 Views

Financially supporting another

This topic is touched on often, but haven't seen a post strictly dedicated to one person bing the sole financial support in a relationship, and i am interested to read peoples views on this.

Person ...

Fri Aug 14, 2020 3:01 pm • 39 Replies • 14280 Views

How am I supposed to behave during sex? What do you like in a sub?

i think you should be yourself, as should your Dom.

i'm not one for 'role play,' and i despise quid pro quo. To me, that's why communication is always foundational. i think of D/s as a dynamic, ...

Tue Aug 11, 2020 3:59 pm • 15 Replies • 7818 Views

A New Tool For Keeping Out The Scammers: "Report User" Feature

lol... i'm totally current.

Mon Aug 10, 2020 7:04 pm • 4 Replies • 9376 Views

A New Tool For Keeping Out The Scammers: "Report User" Feature

Thank you for this, will make it so much easier. i was approached by three suspicious emails just this last weekend and noticed two are already removed.

Mon Aug 10, 2020 6:38 pm • 4 Replies • 9376 Views

Why Block conversation?

^^^This^^^

Mon Aug 10, 2020 5:26 pm • 18 Replies • 7663 Views

Developing feelings

Some wonderful thoughts and posts... as usual.

And that "as usual" part speaks to a core community of wonderfully serious and thoughtful people. We're not 'the norm.' Many, if not most of us, li ...

Mon Aug 10, 2020 5:24 pm • 26 Replies • 8699 Views

BDSM in music

Steely Dan, "Two Against Nature." Pretty much the whole album.

Mon Aug 10, 2020 4:41 pm • 72 Replies • 33426 Views

Why Block conversation?

i think you have listed several reasons that would fit, or that people have.

i see two general and distinct types of D/s (though the variations are prolly innumerable). Some Doms and subs use forc ...

Mon Aug 10, 2020 4:25 pm • 18 Replies • 7663 Views

Positive Masculinity

Ok, I’m gay bottom sub, but I’d wager these are things that align with sub women, we often seem to have stuff in common.
I believe part of the problem with patriarchy is how some cultures try and es ...

Sat Aug 08, 2020 7:14 pm • 11 Replies • 6183 Views