dainix wrote:
Can you please clarify what was so wrong..?
Your passion is ehm - strong
Maybe it's just the words mean to you different things..? How would you categorise and explain it then?
I'm here to learn, since for me it felt very accurate and helped our sexual understanding with me and my girlfriend.
Would appreciate more explanation - on your understanding of BDSM.
I honestly meant what I said; I could write a 1000 word essay on all the misconceptions in that article. The writer clearly isn't a BDSM practicioner but rather a writer who did some hasty internet research trying to make a deadline.
Most of it is 'borrowed' from "5 love languages", which I do recommend.
It's heteronormative as fuck.
It confuses roleplay with kink, doesn't acknowledge lifestyle or 24/7, RACK/SSC, or safe words.
It's bedroom only advice for vanilla couples
Leaves out a ton of kinks.
Doesn't understand difference between M/s, D/s, and switch.
I could go on, but I'll say this instead; you got the most out of it by reading and discussing results with a partner. The benefit you got from it was real, but that says nothing about the validity of the writer or test. You could bond with your partner just as much by discussing the menu at a restaurant. You learned what the other likes, but doesn't mean the food is any good. ?